Sex Pod: The bottom line

This week on Sex Pod we met Kiefer who was feeling very nervous about having anal sex. Even though he had done it before, he said that he had become very anxious when anyone touched his anus – which obviously was NOT having a great effect on his libido and overall experience.

So he came in to ask Sex Pod a question that had been on his mind – “can the anus tear while having anal sex?”

NEVER FEAR Kiefer, knowledge is power and Sex Pod has all the answers. SO, for Kiefer and for all of you who’ve had similar fears, let’s talk anal sex and the risks involved!

Anal sex – what is it and why do it?

Anal sex is any type of sex that involves the anus, whether that’s oral sex or penetration with sex toys, fingers or a penis.

While anal sex can be pleasurable for women, it can be especially pleasurable for men due to their prostate, which is an erogenous gland located in their pelvis that can be stimulated via penetrative anal sex.

What do you need to have anal sex?

First thing’s first, you’re gonna need to use a condom. That’s because you can not only get STIs like chlamydia and genital herpes from anal sex, but you are also more likely to get blood-borne infections like HIV and Hepatitis B and C.

In fact, penetrative anal sex is the most risky type of sex for contracting STIs, so it’s REALLY important you use protection.

You’ll also need to use plenty of lubrication (or lube) to make the experience as comfortable and as pleasurable as possible, because without lubricant the lining of the anus is more likely to tear and cause discomfort.

Just make sure it’s a water based lube as oil-based ones can break condoms!

What can go wrong?

Unlike the vagina, the anus is NOT elastic and its lining is very thin and easy to damage.

What does this mean? It means you need to be extra gentle and careful during sex, and that you may bleed a bit – especially if it is your first time having anal sex, if the sex is rough, or if you have a haemorrhoid. The bleeding is nothing to worry about if it lasts a couple of days, but any more than that and you’ll need to go to your GP to get it checked out.

You could also get an infection due to the bleeding, so it’s important to get yourself checked out if you spot anything out of the ordinary.

The good news is that, while you could experience tears, infections or discomfort, penetrative anal sex is UNLIKELY to cause any serious injury.

Fisting or penetration through larger sex toys, however, can cause serious injury if you aren’t careful as there is a chance of perforating your colon, which is actually a surgical emergency. So if you are having anal sex and experiencing severe abdominal pain (one of the symptoms) then you should IMMEDIATELY get checked out.

How can I have good anal sex?

If you are going to be on the receiving end of penetrative anal sex, it is important that you are relaxed, comfortable, and that you TRUST your sexual partner.

Like any other type of sex, foreplay and lubrication is key and your partner has to be very considerate of how you’re feeling every step of the way so that you can relax – it is important that you know they’ll stop or slow down if you give the word. These factors will make sure your anus is relaxed rather than tensed up so will allow for an overall more pleasurable experience.

WORD OF WARNING: like we always say, porn is not real sex – you shouldn’t feel pressured to keep up with it in the bedroom IRL. Anal sex is actually all about taking it easy, being considerate, and only doing what feels good for you.