Sex Pod

How To Own Your Embarrassing Sex Moments

/ 25 May 2016

Movies, TV, magazines and, of course, porn are constantly presenting us with what sex should be like and how we should behave. However, the reality of sex is that it’s different for everyone and quite often, things happen that maybe aren’t quite so flattering. We’re here to tell you that if it’s happened to you, it’s happened to somebody else and you should just own every aspect of your sex life, embrace the embarrassing stuff and don’t be afraid to have a little fun! Here are a few of the embarrassing things this week’s Sex Pod-ers wanted to know about and what to do about them:

Queefing

This week on Sex Pod, Lucia and Alex wanted to know all about the ultimate atmosphere killer, the queef. For those of you who don’t know what a queef is, get ready to giggle like a schoolchild because, that’s right, it’s a fanny-fart. If you’re thrusting a penis, sex toy or whatever else you happen to be doing into a vagina over and over again, you’re bound to force some air in there with it too right? That’s all a queef is, a build-up of air being pushed into the vagina which has to eventually release itself through nature’s funniest sound.

Unlike real farts, it’s just air (real farts contain bacteria and, let’s face it, smell) and queefing is nothing to be ashamed of, it happens to everyone. Best to just have a little giggle and then get right back too it.

Premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is often a lot less amusing than the good old queef. Finishing too early can be demoralising for a guy and disappointing for their partner but, it happens. Whether it’s because it’s been a while or just because you’re were having too much of a great time, most men will experience this at some point in their lives and if it’s not dealt with properly, it can lead to further worrying and lack of confidence in the bedroom. The best thing to do is to just apologise, chalk this up as a bad one and come (no pun intended) back to it later. As Sex Pod advised, maybe just have a quick snack then try again.

If it keeps happening though this might be an indication of a bigger problem and you should talk to your doctor, who’ll be happy to advise!

Faking orgasm

Another not-so-hot topic from this week’s show, 55% of Pod-ers said that at some point they had faked an orgasm. Virtually the exact opposite of premature ejaculation, this can be just as frustrating in the bedroom, especially for women who can’t always achieve orgasm (men almost always can, lucky buggers). If you’re not enjoying the sex, it can be embarrassing for both people to say so, so often women (and sometimes men, but this is a bit trickier) will fake it just to end the sex.

We know it can be embarrassing, but if your partner isn’t doing it for you, let them know what you’d prefer. If there’s something you like, be confident and tell them what it is! There’s nothing sexier than confidence in the bedroom and if you tell them, you’ll probably both have a way better time!

Talking about safe-sex

If you’re about to get down to it and the guy hasn’t mentioned condoms yet, don’t be afraid to bring it up! It’s not just down to dudes to provide the condom, it takes two to tango. You should never just go through with it anyway, as you’ll be putting yourself at risk of all manner of nasty STIs.

If you’re worried about what they might think if you demand a condom, never fear. If they’re not willing to be safe then they don’t deserve to have sex with you anyway! Plus, they’ll probably be fine with it, because safe sex is good sex!

Getting tested

While we’re at it, this isn’t really an embarrassment in the bedroom, more after. If you’re worried you might have contracted an STI, going to the clinic can be embarrassing. You might be worried that people will see you and judge you, or just that the whole experience will be super-awks.

Getting tested doesn’t mean you’ve been sleeping around (plus who cares if you have!?) it just means that you’re being sensible and looking after your health, nothing wrong with that! As for the testing itself, we guarantee that the people at the clinic will be lovely and make sure the whole thing runs smoothly. Plus, the alternative to not going is way worse than anything that can happen if you go!

Hope that helps! Just remember, no matter what happens, just be confident and proud of your body and you’ll never be embarrassed again.