Kym Marsh: Teen Mums and Me

Kym Marsh: Teen Mums and Me

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Former Hear'Say star and current Coronation Street cast member, Kym Marsh takes a candid look at the realities for teenage mothers in the UK today.

Brought up on a housing estate in Wigan, Kym was one of the many who fell pregnant at a young age. By the time she was 21, she had two children to look after and times were tight. Sometimes she could not afford to pay for heating, and had to share nappies with her sister. Living on £80 a week in rented accommodation, she found it hard to get out of the rut. But Kym is a survivor.

Having now established herself professionally and financially, Kym leaves her showbiz world to return to her roots to meet a number of Manchester’s present-day teenage mums and experience their day-to-day lives. Kym is interested to discover how life has changed for today’s young mothers compared with her own experiences. She finds out how much money they have to live on, how they juggle bringing up a child with college, work and socialising, and how the stigma of their predicament affects them.

Kym tries to manage one mum’s budget and help another who is looking for work. She also tries to get across to some of the very youngest parents (one of whom gave birth at 13) that it is OK to have a social life. Will she manage to get her message across?

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  • Allie

    1 year ago

    Allie

    Everyone is so quick to judge the situation, i had been with my baby's dad snce i was 12 and he was 14. When i was 15 i got pregnant and i told him. He was 17, he would go out with his friends and smoke lots of weed and get drunk. He didn't work and didn't go to college. I gave birth to my beautiful little princess Lily, two months after i turned 16 and since then she has been the apple of my eye. I adore her. When Lily was 2, her dad started to go out more and more, he was barely ever home, we decided that it would be best if we split up, so i moved out of his flat and back in with my parents, which was difficult as i have six younger siblings in a four bedroom house. Living with my mum and dad, a 3yo, two 6 year olds, a 9yo, an 11yo and a 14yo wasnt the easiest time with me and a toddler. I was born when my mum and dad were only 18 so was probably the bearer of bad news when i first told them i was pregnant. I didn't tell them for a while because i didn't know what to say. My closest sibling is 4 years younger than me and he was only 11 when i got pregnant, and mym had just had a baby so i felt in a difficult sitution. Lil's dad was hardly visiting anymore only when his sister came over. His sister,Kate, is the same age as me and is still to this day very much involved in Lily's life. Kate used to tell me that he was getting worse, smoking more weed and drinking everynight. I didn't know what to do. The final straw for me was when he turned up stoned to visit Lily and i refused to let him in. I went over to his that night with Kate and told him that i couldnt let him see Lily in the state he was in. If he could sort himself out then he could but he told me that it was best for all of us if he left. And sure enough he did. He went to London to live with his grandma and left his sister in the care of their eldest brother Steve. Him leaving was the hardest decision i ever got him to make he was 20 had a 2 year old daughter and was taking all kinds of things. When Lily started school i met a bloke Danny, he was picking up his nephew and after a while he asked me out. I would've never confessed to him but i did sorta fancy him. I hadn't been with anyone for 2 years and Danny was a kind and caring bloke, he is five years older than me and i was 20 when we met. After about three months of flirting. We made it official and the first people i told were Kate and Steve and they were cool with it. We have been together for four years now and We are engaged and have a little boy Jake who is eleven months old. Lily is 8 and regularly sees Kate and Steve, Dave has been in contact and has met Lily a few times. Dave is clean and has been for five years. He has a 2 year old with his ex and Lily has met her and they love eachother. I'm glad Dave has sorted himself out for Lily's sake and Danny gets on with him quite well. X Allie

  • rachel

    over 1 year ago

    rachel

    right all the teen mummys here i fell pregnant at 15 and gave birth to my son at 16 as a single mum who all has msn? or bbm if yu do have email try not let it be sensored would love to chat to other girls like mex

  • Jessie

    over 1 year ago

    Jessie

    I fell pregnant at 16 and i found out i was having twins. When i told people, most of thedisowned me as friends i mean who would want to be friends with a slag as they all said. I think the hardest thing was telling my parents and me and my boyfriend Shane took a while to tell them. I am so happy i kept the babies because despite what everyone else thought of me i did it, i finished school with decent GCSE grades and managed to stick it out with my boyfriend, im 25 now and i have six children. But o found it difficult at first then i fell into my maternal instincts and it was all ok. Kym has touched a really sensitive issue as far as most of the world is concerned. I believe it is an issue that people think it is wrong to decide when you want to have a baby and even if it was unplanned to keep the baby. I love all of my kids and adore them. I married my boyfriend in 2008 and i will never regret anything i have done. Everything i have done in the last ten years have been for my babies. I love you Mia,Kenzy,Jazmyn,Kylah,Lily and Zayn.

  • Jess

    2 years ago

    Jess

    I got pregnant at 16 and with this came heaps of prejudice and negativity from family, friends and people in the street. One woman told me I was disgusting for being out in public with my pregnant stomach. The family planning clinic suggested that the only sensible option was too abort my baby, I would have done had I not experienced an overwhelming sense of needing to protect my little bump. I had a beautiful daughter when I was 17, and we have the most perfect life. I work hard to provide for her, a year after she was born I returned to college to complete my A-levels, I went on to do a foundation degree in fine art and qualifications in horse riding instruction (so that I could teach to earn enough money to put me through uni.) I made the decision to move away to university with my daughter as soon as I had finished college. I'm now in my second year studying an English Literature degree. My daughter is 5, and learning a second language. I work as a barmaid and receptionist in between lectures to cover the cost of horse riding, ballet lessons, swimming and rainbows for my daughter. It has taken me a long time to learn to be proud of my achievements and to use people's negativity to spur me on. We live in a caravan by the sea, so life is a little unusual, but it's warm, safe and dry has beautiful views! It'll certainly do until I've finished my degree. I'm currently applying to do an MA in English Literature, in either Galway, Boston USA or Wales. If I can maintain the grades I'm getting now (all 2.1's and above I'm proud to add!) I hope to go on to study a PHD. Then I hope to land a job that will pay for an expedition to Argentina when my daughter leaves school and give us both a comfortable life (with horses, cruises, a big house etc) although not all of my aspirations are so materialistic ;-) Having my daughter young has made me the ambitious hard working parent I am today. I l do not live of benefits, but student loans and wages from part time jobs. I have so much fun with my daughter, and I believe that I have truly instilled the values of working hard to earn a living into her. I try hard to ensure she stays in contact with her father, although his work ethics and level of commitment differ to mine, but I think it's hugely important that she feels loved by us both. At uni I have faced prejudice on a whole new level. My life is so alien to so many of the students I have met, I think that quite often they don't know what to talk to me about, but then they meet my daughter (usually on an essay hand-in day when we are racing through the corridors to get an essay in last minute!) and she breaks down all sorts of barriers. She's brilliant and confident, and will tell anybody who will listen exactly how happy she is with our life. My aim now is to show young people that if they do get pregnant, they can create a completely fantastic life for their children and themselves, full of opportunities, and not to ignore the protective instincts that kick in when they are pregnant, should they find themselves considering an abortion. A child is the most beautiful thing we can be given, and in turn give to the world. No one can tell us we don't deserve this because of our age or background. Although I feel truly lucky, I'm not suggesting that motherhood (for any aged mother) is easy. I suffered knock backs along the way (e.g getting the sack, loosing loved ones, low self esteem when things don't go to plan, feeling lonely etc) but I've learned that it's OK to have a down day, so long as it's just the one! If I loose a job you can bet your bottom dollar I'll be out the next day talking myself into a new one. I know that this might all sound like a bit of an ego trip for me, but I'm finally proud to stand up to anyone and say look what I've achieved as a young mum, and what I will go on to achieve. In fact I think I might write a book. Watch this space!!

  • Emily-Rose

    2 years ago

    Emily-Rose

    I fell pregnant at 13. And im 17 now and have two beautiful little girls without them i don't know what i'd be like. Everyone is far too quick to judge those who get pregnant young. They don't know the story behind it or the fact that every pregnant teenager faces a big decision and makes a morally right one by keeping their baby. The word slag disgusts me that a stranger can depict someone based on one aspect of their life. The fact most people presume these teenage dads leave the girl pregnant my boyfriend Adam has been there through it all and without him i don't think i'd be standing. Kym Marsh gets alot of criticism from the world because of the public image she has but IMO she is one of the only real celebs because she isn't afraid to say what she believes and she has touched a very sensitive topic in society because the prejudice that faces teenage parents is at an extremely high level. But Kym is a true inspiration and deserves to be acknowledged for everything she'd been through and the fact she's still a fighter. I am the person i am today because of my lil girls and Ad and i wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. I love you Hollie,Lillie and Adam . xx

  • ellie

    2 years ago

    ellie

    im a teen mum i had my son at 6 i got pregnant the week before my birthday turning 16 i thought i was now a grown up adult but the day when i found out i was expecting i realised how old i actually i was and that im only a child.My sons biological dad was not happy and asked me to abort instantly im no gonnlie conssir this but im so glad i dint he went out of his way to gt rid of our baby hitttig me in the stomach in temper i wont lie we were typical stereotype of young parents i had just been kicked out of school & was drinking atleast twice a week he was 19 had only just got out of prison a few moths earlier and we were both heavy on weed,i was caught unlucky the first time we slept together i was kicked out of my mums house and have moved around 9 times since and im still trying to find a stable home.Anyway to cut the long story short he cleared off and when ourson was born seen him once when he was 10days old and not bothered since but my bf has been bringing my son up since he was 3weeks old,keeping my son was the best decision i ever made it made me who i am today without my son id be dead or in prison i no longer smoke weed or heavily drink i dont go ut really my life evolves round my little family i may be 17 but i feel much more mature than most girls my age,i think the stereotype young parent is disgusting i was in college til the day i had my son and cant wait to go back to finish it off and finally get my gcse's to get a job

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  • Han

    2 years ago

    Han

    I'm 18, I have no children and not pregnant. Just wanted to say something about the people that are judging young mums... All circumstances are different... my cousin's friend got pregnant and she and her boyfriend agreed they were too young...however the gp told her she had some problems and whether she kept the baby or not this would be the last time she would ever have the chance to have a child. I have a life-long illness which requires strong medications... i am yet to find one that controls my illness and I have 3 left which still allow me to have children... afterwards i turn to medications which will make me infertile. I want children and more than one... if it requires me having them in the next couple of years and theres nothing small minded people like the ones who have made thoughtless comments on here can do to prevent that. Just think about that before assuming that all young mums got pregnant on a one night stand, didn't use contraception, don't have supportive families and don't do everything possible to take care of their children regardless of the circumstances.

  • jll

    2 years ago

    jll

    I'm an old woman now but i had a son at 16 i had no choice my family did what they thought was best and made me have him adopted. It was a different world then so please don't be appalled. I was secretly pleased that i didn't have to make the decisions .though its broke my heart since. All i know its always been the same guys promise you the world then do the off leaving the girls to clean up the mess. I admire these girls who stand by their baby's good luck to them and hold their heads high. We have all made mistakes but they have their lovely children . However if abortion or adoption is right for you then no one has the right to criticize. as it is you who is left holding the baby so to speak.

  • Carla

    2 years ago

    Carla

    I'm 17 and 4 months pregnant now, watching this programme made me more aware of how hard this job is going to be but its also made me more determined. The thought of abortion never ever occured to me when i found out, in my eye's its a life and if im old enough to have sex, im old enough to hold responsibility for its consequences. I do get judged, i do get called names but i take it on the chin, at the end of the day i know i will do everything i can for my child, and i will work hard to live my live as it should be lived, ive started saving money and have a lot of support from my family and best friends - telling them was hard, at first they were disappointed, but now we look forward to the future and my little baby who will be given so much love by all of us. Positive thinking is the way to go. The quality of a mother does not come down to age . x

  • Connie

    2 years ago

    Connie

    I am 18, I am not a virgin, and i am not pregnant. It can happen, I dont think its about teaching abstinance or keeping your daughter away from all boys. My parents have let me lead a normal teenage life, they have welcomed by male friends and boyfriends whenever they have come along, but from an early age (about 10) I knew what sex was, and i knew what it could lead too. We talked about contraception openly as soon as i started my period and i dicussed with my mom whether if contraception failed i would want an abortion. I dont think i would, but you cant make the call untill your in that position. Sex is a nautral part of growing up, and contacption DOES fail, are those of you saying you shouldnt have a baby untill you can afford it suggestion nobody should have sex untill they can afford it?

  • Laylah

    over 2 years ago

    Laylah

    People should only have children if they can afford them, I am 25 years old, my mother was a teen mum and completely to offer any wisdom as she had no life experience. I am now a mature student, studying Engineering - because I WILL NOT have a child until I can afford one!

  • Lu

    over 2 years ago

    Lu

    I love children, i want to be an Early Years teacher (teaching from 4-8 years old) but i'm 16, and i've had a pregnancy scare, and i'm now on the contraceptive injection to make sure it doesn't happen again. All credit goes to teeange mums, it's hard being a teenager as it is without having to look after another person, i think it's cruel for people to undermine teenage mums because they do a brilliant job, if not a better job than older mums, and need more support and credit given to them. Don't put them down because not all of them do wrong, you can bring up a good child at any age.

  • kay-leigh

    over 2 years ago

    kay-leigh

    my mum had me when she was 16 and im now 17 and all i can say is that she is the best mum in the whole world just shows age isnt the most important thing love is and i love my mum more than any person on this planet and couldet live without her your mums your mum and thats that!

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  • sarah

    over 2 years ago

    sarah

    im 22 and i have 3 girls my oldest is 5 i wouldnt change them for the world i dont care what people say to me or even look at me with there dirty looks im proud to be a mam and i always will be and yes i am on benefits i struggle always have but my girls dont want for anything the clean and fed problem with this world today is there is to many people that think they are better then everyone else but yous arent :)

  • Danielle

    over 2 years ago

    Danielle

    Why is it most people are quick to judge most people start having sex at 15/16 well at least try it and alot of them dont use protection they fail to realise the outcome of there actions. And loads of teenagers without any kids are claiming benefits whats there excuse for sitting on there arse at home!!. Teen mums may have to claim benefits not as if they want to but because what else are you going to do if u dont have childcare and are on a low wage u cant pay for that and rent on a crap wage!!. My little girl is 3 now i had her at 17, i have done my a levels since then and am now at uni and have recentley just found a part time job.

  • Shannon R

    over 2 years ago

    Shannon R

    People are entitled to there opinions but i certainly do not agree with nats comment! No one should be made to feel ashamed of themselves there brave to make the decision , i think that if your responsible making the baby your responsible to take the consequences, abortions are wrong in every single way ! like i said take the responsibility, well done to all teen mums :)!

  • Nat

    over 2 years ago

    Nat

    girls should learn to keep there legs closed who get up the duff at 14,15 and 16. I had my kid when i was 22 married and a home. Its not that hard to go get the pill i got it as i didnt want to get up the duff, why cant kids these days do that.

  • Amanda

    over 2 years ago

    Amanda

    I fell pregnant when I was 15 and had my daughter at 16, I am now 36 and my daughter is 20. Having a baby at 16 was one of the hardest things I have ever done, i didn't want to sit at home and claim benefits but I had too. People assume that it's how you want to live and it's an easy life but believe me it wasn't. I only claimed benefits for a short time as soon as I was able to work I did and my determination to prove everyone wrong kept me going and I have probably worked harder and had a harder life than most people but I don't regret a thing. I now work as a midwife and have a wonderful life it took me a bit longer than most but I did it and my advice to any teenager that falls pregnant is it's your choice what path you take and if you take the difficult path, yes it will be hard but possible your life isn't over, just have the determination to be a great mum, achieve a great life and prove everyone wrong

  • shyannedianne

    over 2 years ago

    shyannedianne

    Kevin,what I did when I realised my teen daughter was sexually active was to bribe her with 20 pound to get the implant fitted...it worked. I was 20 when I had my first child and it was the hardest job I've ever done but the most rewarding,luckily when I was younger I learnt to cook so that skill came in real handy,I wish I had waited till I'd lived a bit before settling into becoming a mum as such a young age but I have no regrets,infact I don't really know what the big issue with age and babies is as many moons ago it was normal to be married and pregnant at as young as 15,ob I'm going back many moons but it happened and as for being single and pregnant at young ages this was also going on in world war 2,both single and married women were getting pregnant to the americans over here,and you only have to look at the royal family to see single parents,as the saying goes...he without sin cast the first stone

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  • kayleigh

    over 2 years ago

    kayleigh

    this show has agen kind of anoyed me as they all are single parents when not all teen parents are single it seems like every time someone says teen mum they must be single , i was 18 when i fell pregnat and 19 when i gave birth 6 months ago, unlike the mum you always see on tv im not single , not on benfits i know how to cook ( healthy) i would just like everyone to no not all us teen mums are the same and some of us are actually doing ok

  • Annie

    over 2 years ago

    Annie

    Hi all - if you need any info about money for teenage parents, Gingerbread has a benefits finder which lets you know what benefits you should be able to get: www.gingerbread.org.uk/content/336/Parents-under-18. They also have lots of advice sheets for single parents on topics like housing and arranging child maintenance, or you can call their helpline on 0808 802 0925. They also have forums on their website where you can talk to other single mums and get some support from someone who knows what it's like!

  • ema

    over 2 years ago

    ema

    i was 14 when i fell with my 1st, i am now 33y and my little/big girl is 17 coming up for 18, and glad to say no dis-respect to us ultra young mums, thankfully she hasn't followed in my foot steps.and as much as i think Kim is doing a great job high lighting the hardship us teen mums have to go through as a result of not just getting pregnant in our teens but deciding to keep our babies and to bring them up through our teens, i don't think i've seen as yet 1 single dad in this program that has decided to do the right thing and stand by there child (weather or not they and the mother are still together!) and that would be something really good to see,as to all you narrow minded people out there, it take's 2 to make a baby! you go kim xxxxxx

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  • Shannon

    over 2 years ago

    Shannon

    I'm 16 years old and 16weeks pregnant. Watching that young girl Hannah and the way she just let her daughter eat old food off the floor and making her live off of tins of baby food and takeaways absolutely disgusts me! How irresponsible! As I am about to be a teenage mother it really angers me because it's girls like her who give us teen parents a bad name. Thank god not every young mum is like her.

  • amanda

    over 2 years ago

    amanda

    i was a teen mum i fell pregnant at 15 and gave birth to my beautiful daughter on my 16th birthday i had my 2nd daughter at 18 and now having my 3rd and final son at 20 and yet i wouldnt change any of them for the world ive had so much support from family and friends and yet in the future i will live a happy life knowing im a younger mummy :)

  • cheri

    over 2 years ago

    cheri

    I am a 29 year old single mum to a beautiful 13 month old boy, I have all the same issues these teen mums face plus more. Bein an older single mum can be even harder , There isn't the free childcare to go back to college or uni in my area for parents over 21. I dont have the support off my family so It would be impossible to go back to work right now as I cant afford nursery. I really wouldn't change anything about my life though. My boy brings me so much happiness and fun, I do miss adult company and girlie nights out and in but I know that these early days are so precious, you don't get them back so I dont agree with Kym Marsh saying to the 13 year old she needs to go out partying. Kym might have been partyin when her babies where still in nappies, That doesn't mean we all want to do that though.

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  • Sas

    over 2 years ago

    Sas

    I thought Kym did a brilliant job on the documentary. I remember all the press attention she got when it was revealed that Kym had two children. Before Popstars, this was a real taboo subject, but Kym changed that. She made it OK to go on a reality show and be a parent. She should be proud of the influence she had on society.

  • keri

    over 2 years ago

    keri

    my thoughts on the programme about time why is it just the teen mums what about all frist time single mums we find it just as hard or even harder i am a single my and very proud to be a mum and wouldn't change it for the world . i am 30 and my little girl is 2 years old i have just as many problems as teen mums one of my big issue is i can't afford to put my child into a preschool/nursery as it cost to much, all i want is some socialising for my little girl and some me time

  • robert

    over 2 years ago

    robert

    whats the song playing in the dance class?

  • katie

    over 2 years ago

    katie

    Im 26 and have two children - I wasn't a teen mum. i married at 19 and had my 1st baby at 23 - it is a very hard job!! I take my hat off to these girls who all appear to be single mums and although they have family support its not the same as having a partner there to muck in and help all the time. These teen mums should really be given more credit, they are really trying to make the best of a situation they did not expect to be in and now they probably wouldnt change it for the world - everyone makes 'mistakes' but sometimes they turn out to be the best 'mistake' you ever made.x

  • laura..x

    over 2 years ago

    laura..x

    i was 18 when i fell pregnant. I had a little boy he was very challanging but i have a strange outlook on life, and i think theres no such thing as hard,if your babys crying and in pain your first fought would be to help the pain stop and to comfot her you may think its difficult after but the smiles warm your heart like no other... i am now 23 and have a almost 1 yr old little girl to. i love being a mummy and im glad i was young as i have the energy to play really well with my now 4yr old boy and daughter. x

  • brogan

    over 2 years ago

    brogan

    I had my baby girl at 17 and she is now 18 months and she makes me so proud I have been with my partner for 6 years and I have a great job in a solicitors and I pay for everything myself my partner is in uni doing his degree. I had a tough pregnancy but its all worth it. Young mums can do what they want if they work hard enough. People just look down on u but I just laugh at them becuase iv Gt the perfect family n working life me n my family need.

  • Emma

    over 2 years ago

    Emma

    Teen pregnancies have always been happening its just not swept under the rug these days and mums aren't forced by there family's to put there child up for adoption, which is what used to happen. Being a teenager and having a baby is noway ideal but at the end of the day it happens and they should not be judged if that baby is loved and cared for then that all that matters and good luck to teen mums in the future.

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  • karissia

    over 2 years ago

    karissia

    i fell pregnant at 17 and am having my baby next week even though i am a teen mum i have my own house pay all my bills and can drive as well as having 5 a* GCSE and A levels i have a good wage and am still with the same man i am so proud of being a teen mum and wouldn't change it for the world even if i have no one all i need is my baby and partner.

  • Brittany

    over 2 years ago

    Brittany

    I fell pregnant at the age of 15 i am now 16 and due to have my baby next month i personally cannot wait, im still with the father and i hope it stays that way but even if that doesnt plan out i no he would never leave the child behind and i would never use my child to stay with the father as thats just cruel. Im continuing my education and am going on to become a teen pregnancy support worker and couldnt be happier with my life and my planned future. Any comments against teen pregnancy's i totaly disagree with as im only 16 and have everyone behind me and no one in my family before me have been young parents im the first but the support i have is more than anything i could have asked for and i am so thankful. No one is a 'slag' just for becoming a young mam i fell pregnant with my 'first time' and my first and hopefully last love who iv been with well over a year now. I do have to say though if you are pregnant dont keep it to your self as your only going to cause your self stress if anyone says anything just ignore and move on its your life just prove them wrong.

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  • Chadie

    over 2 years ago

    Chadie

    I fell pregnant when I was 17, giving up my child was never an option. My daughter Sienna is now almost 2 years old and I've never regretted a single moment of having her! I'm still with her father and have now been with him 4 years. My life is actually complete with them :) I have a good job, got a great education at the all girls school that I attended, so I really can't complain!

  • Lauryn Breslan

    over 2 years ago

    Lauryn Breslan

    I was just 17 when i fell pregnant with my daughter, watching this programme made me cry, because it gave me time to sit down and realise what my life is like. I'd of loved to be in this programme to show people around in my area who judges me how hard my life is and that i'm a really good mum. If they make a new series i'd love to be in it!! Couldn't have a more down to earth "celeb" to be involved, Kym Marsh is an inspiration!

  • Kevin

    over 2 years ago

    Kevin

    I am a 48-y-o father with a 13-y-o daughter and the timing for this program could not have been better for us. Our daughter is constantly lying to us and going behind our backs to meet up with a 14-y-o boy and they have already been talking about when they're going to have sex (she says they haven't done it yet, but we're not sure we believe her). We have been tearing our hair out for months trying to get her to see sense and it's ruining our relationship with her and all our other kids. No matter what we do or say, she continues to defy us to be with this boy. After yet another row last night, we found this program by accident and sat her down to watch it.. It definitely opened her eyes to the possible consequences of the road she's going down - how it might make it impossible for her to finish her education, go to Uni, have a career and a life that she really wants and which will ultimately make her happy. I wish there was a lot more education like this available to parents struggling like we are to deal with our teenage daughter. A few words from a stranger seemed to have a lot more of an effect on her than the constant nagging from parents who are "too old, too weird and too over-protective" to understand what she's going through. Good on you Kym - you managed to paint a realistic picture without the usual patronising, judgemental BS that normally comes from presenters on programs like these.

  • liz

    over 2 years ago

    liz

    I fell pregnant at 15 ,but it nerve stop me to complete my school education.and I was on benefit but now I finished school and college I am at university study nursing also my daughter she 5 year old , I think fell pregnant at young age make me realise about my life and my daughter now I am not along on benefit .

  • Leanne

    over 2 years ago

    Leanne

    I fell pregnant at 17, i was on the pill and got pregnant but had a miscarriage so after that me and my partner decided we wanted a baby after we thought we was having one so i didn't go back on the pill. 4 months later i fell pregnant and had my baby at 18. Like Zoey my partner is in the army and i only found out i was pregnant 2 days after he was deployed to Afghanistan, 3 months later he was in an explosion and lost his leg. So things haven't always been easy for us, it wasn't the way we planned our lives to go, but we adore our little boy, we have our own house, we both work and don't live off benefits. I worked went to college and completed my a levels just 2 weeks after my partner was injured, and i worked 2 jobs til i was 35 weeks pregnant. So don't assume all teenage mums are benefit scroungers who don't make anything of themselves and go nowhere in life.

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  • Lisa

    over 2 years ago

    Lisa

    well lou you are entitled to think that way but just for the record i worked from i had my daughter for the simple reason i wouldnt have people like you talk about me as i say i had my daughter at 17 some young mums dont get a chance to work have you ever had to pay rent, childcare and keep a household on mim wage!!!!!!!!!!! well a lot of teen mums do.

  • jade

    over 2 years ago

    jade

    few off my mates have got kids there the same ages as my lil girl now! there noffing rong wid being a teen mum its bound to happen! n maybe sum people want to keep there babbies cuz there too scared to get ride off it abortions is just rong n cruel cuz babbies are a blessing n just for fun x

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  • AL

    over 2 years ago

    AL

    I think us girls should stop giving Lou the attention she craves so bad. I think it speaks volumes that most of us are making better lives for ourselves and bringing up our children meanwhile the best she can come up with is sending her time trolling the internet looking for arguments! I gave birth on my 18th birthday and it was the best present I have ever received. I have a partner, I have my own home & I have a job now she is in pre school. Having a child young doesn't end your life, if anything it makes it better. You start appreciating the better things in life. Partying and 'girly holidays' are nothing compared to the feeling when your baby takes her first steps/says her first word.

  • Zoey

    over 2 years ago

    Zoey

    i fell pregnant with my son at 16 then had him aged 17 and i am now 18 and he is 7 months, i lost all my friends due to having a baby and they said they didnt want to hang out with me due to me having a child and that i canot do teenage things no more I.E go out to the cinema or for a drink or anything. i also got lots of funny/dirty looks when i went out during my pregnancy and even now when i go out with my son i still get the dirty looks, i did get pregnant using contraception so the person saying them stuff about using the pill is so wrong about things because i got pregnant useing contraception, and because i dont believe in abortions i kept my child and i dont regrett it or wish anything differant, i would never go back and change anything, he is my world and yes i am a stay at home mum, i am also a house wife as well as my partner is in the army, i am on benifits but i do not scrounge and never will i am on benifits because it helps pay the bills and give my child the food he needs, my partner helps us as well with his wages. so tbh anyone saying that teen mums are scroungeing and that we should take contraception need to open their eyes and realise not all contraception is 100% so even they could get pregnant. this programn is really good and has opened my eyes to start going out and being a bit more sociable. i think kym should keep up the good work and make this program a perminate thing.

  • Kathy

    over 2 years ago

    Kathy

    I think your comment is revolting. I got pregnant at 14. You're not thinking then that sex is going to lead to babies. Your too young to understand the consequences of your actions. More should be done to prevent young pregnancies. I was lucky, I was at grammar school and they were extremely supportive. I stayed on at school, and left with GSCE's and ALevels. I have always worked to support my family. And what a hideous narrow minded view, to say that Kym's past is shameful!! What has she got to be ashamed about, she may have been a young mum, but she is now a successful independent women with 3 beautiful children. It easy for people to point the finger at teen mums, but rather than people like you being quick to judge, why isn't more done to prevent it? And if you look into the benefits system, it's our insane government, who dish out crazy amounts of money to people. There have been times when I would have been better off, not working! Yes there clearly is a problem, but open your eyes to the reasons why, before the criticizing the naivety of children!!!!

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  • alex

    over 2 years ago

    alex

    I am 21 and have 2 girls aged 4 and 2, being a teenage mum was the hardest thing i ever done and have always lived with the stigma attached to being a teenage mum, i love my girls more then anythink in the world and they will always come first. i dont belive my age limits what i can do 4 my children they have a cooked meal every day and are always clean and well dressed, we spend lots of time playing together and i always encourge them to be the best they can be. like many single mums i am on benifits i wish this wasnt the case and i know that i will NOT be on them forever, i feel that being on benifits is the only way i fail my children. i love what kym is doing and hope that she can show every every one that just because your a teenage mum doesnt mean that you cant be a good mum. make us teenage mums proud kym!!

  • Sarah

    over 2 years ago

    Sarah

    SHUT UP LOU!!!!! Someone like you are to shallow to have kids that's why it hasn't happened for you yet. And for you to judge Kim who made a life for herself and kids, you should be ashamed. Lets hope if you ever have kids you never come unstuck along the way and have to lean on others for help. But like i said your to shallow to see beyond woman wanting to give their child love and its all about money to you. And what is so shameful about kims past. I don't think there is anything shameful being a loving mum no matter what age you are. I wonder if you got any friends with the way you come across or maybe they are the same as you! GO KIM, WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU DOING MORE ON THIS PROGRAM! and so would a lot of other confused young mothers or maybe teens are considering becoming a mother. You are doing a good job and something for the better.

  • corena

    over 2 years ago

    corena

    well loe i got peg at 17 had my bby at 18 i worked and payed for everythin n at the end ov day im glad i had my son young im now 25 and sufferd mc and an etoipc and had my tube removed u nrva no wat the future holds im also a social worker sooo stop been too quick to judge most ov em lifed at home n its not like u get loads a money bout £1oopw 4 food nappies gas electric ect its hard x

  • Sarah

    over 2 years ago

    Sarah

    If we all waited to have babies when we could "afford" to we would end up with lots of orphaned children due to the old age of their parents! I appreciate some girls do it to get a house or trap their men but please don't tar everyone with that same pessimistic brush. I was not a teen mum but lashing out on those that are will not make the situation any better. We need to educate the teens of this generation and make them realise that they could be whoever/whatever they want to be and enjoy their lives before settling down and having a family.

  • Katherine

    over 2 years ago

    Katherine

    This was a really thought provoking program. I got pregnant at 14, and keep the pregnancy a secret for 6months. I really struggled. I take my hat off to some of the girls in this program. My daughter is 12 now and I would really love to get involved in offering support and help to other teen mums.

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  • jade

    over 2 years ago

    jade

    i fell pregnant at 16 :) n had my baby girl at 17 shes the best thing in my life i found it hard when i had her but i love it now :)

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  • Lisa

    over 2 years ago

    Lisa

    I was a teen mum had my first daughter at 17 it was so hard all the judging of other people really knocks you. But on the bright side my daughter is nearly 18 now and studing for her A Levels (so i must have done something right lol). we are more like sisters now i wouldn't change any of the hard times they are wot make us stronger

  • jasmine

    over 2 years ago

    jasmine

    awhh how old r u now charlotte?

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  • Charlotte

    over 2 years ago

    Charlotte

    I fell pregnant at the age on 15 and also had my son at 15 being a teen mum is the most hardest thing i have ever done, but i wouldn't give it up even though from tine to time i feel like running away, burst out crying or even just give up but my son is worth every bit of that x

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