Series 1 - Jodie Marsh Bullied: My Secret Past

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Glamour model, reality TV star and body builder Jodie Marsh tells the full story of what effect bullying had on her and how it has made her the person she is today.

Jodie faces up to some uncomfortable memories from her time at school. It is an emotional journey that sees her exploring beyond the boundaries of her native Brentwood to uncover the true extent of bullying and its impact on its victims. When Jodie was at primary school her nose was broken during a hockey match. At secondary school her crooked nose was crooked became the subject of bullies’ taunts. Constant verbal abuse led Jodie to contemplate suicide and caused her parents to offer her a nose job when she was 15. It made no difference and the bullying continued until her parents removed her from school.

With her own personal experience in mind, Jodie connects with some of today’s young victims of bullying. How does it affect them and what support do they receive? How do schools deal with bullying now compared to when Jodie was at school? Is their approach effective? Jodie knows that bullying experienced at school can affect people for the rest of their lives, and she wants to help others recover from the psychological damage more quickly than she did.

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    11 months ago

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  • sara

    1 year ago

    sara

    I hope you will make this programme available soon again on d5! It will help alot of people.

  • denica_x

    over 1 year ago

    denica_x

    i feel strongly about bullying and watching this made me realise that it can stop and be dealt with and its easy to talk to others about your pasts and what you went through as a child. this made me feel sick inside and couldnt stop crying hours after! team marsh all the way! xx

  • honey

    over 1 year ago

    honey

    The adverts are a joke on this. The show was interesting but I nearly gave up with the almost five minute adverts.

  • Megan Redfern

    almost 2 years ago

    Megan Redfern

    I know millie, she's really nice, and it's hard to believe anyone bullied her because she's so nice! LOVE YOU MILLIE! <333

  • John Winter

    2 years ago

    John Winter

    Jodie you are an inspiration to those of us who went through the same thing. 52 now and still have flashbacks. My time in the Army was a doddle compared to school.

  • Brian

    2 years ago

    Brian

    about time we had a show that shows not only the damage of bullying, but the long term damage, im 41 and as mine was so violent I now have mental health issues and can't work.....pity I wasn't on this docu to show the REALLY long term damage bullying can and has done.

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  • Daniel Maycock

    2 years ago

    Daniel Maycock

    I am so glad bullying is being taken far more seriously and this show and all thise affected on there, who have posted and even those out there now trying to survive it are far stronger than you or the bullies realise. Tackling bullying as Jodie said is the hardest thing because we need te help those affected by it and those who are commiting it. Maybe something we can bring more into school curriculums because at our youngest, we learn so much, but the most powerful messages stay with us forever and the negative messages causing so much harm to those is the worst to leave. It is the most crippling and life draining and no child or adult should have to live this way... ever. Thank you for Jodie and the Team who made this, it must have been so hard to make and it must have brought back some really painful times.

  • Saffy

    2 years ago

    Saffy

    Aw, Milly is beautiful! Those bullies are just jealous! x

  • chaz

    2 years ago

    chaz

    A think the bullies only do it because they are jealous, and don't like themselves so they just try to bring other people down, Well done Jodie xx

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  • Random guy who just fell in love with Zoe.

    2 years ago

    Random guy who just fell in love with Zoe.

    Hard to believe that someone like the Zoe girl @ around 19 minutes was bullied. She is incredibly good looking and attractive. She has so much going for her that one would assume that someone like that would never be bullied, that she would be above it. It's hard to understand what someone like Zoe could possibly have to be bullied about. For the record Zoe, I think you are amazing. xx

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  • amy

    2 years ago

    amy

    i was bullied at school to the point where i no longer wanted to be hear, and it did nearly happen but watching this has made me realise that it was not my fault. and that they had no right to do the things they did to me. thank you Jodie for doing this program and for helping me realise that it was not my fault. x

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  • kaycee

    2 years ago

    kaycee

    @DS social services can help you, there are not all there to do bad, they are there to support you, try calling your local social services for advice, councilling can help too,

  • kaycee

    2 years ago

    kaycee

    Bullying is ILLEGAL, verbal bullying is also an offence, some police put it under harassment, but your child has a right to put a police statement in, the police must not fob you off, by saying children are children nor can they say its a school issue, bullying is ILLEGAL where ever it happens, and if the child is under 10 the police can take action against the parents of the bullies,also this can also affect the bullies tenacy with the housing and can be evictied when police and housing work together to stop this and the bullies refuse to stop. trust me we been there when my child was bullied, our police did help, if your police refuse you can complain to the police complance commition, ALSO you may like yo know another option If local authorities adviced the public about the great benefits of home education, then people who are unhappy at school, would know that school is not compulsury, you can get an education outside of school, You already home educate children, from the moment your baby is born, you teach them to say mummy daddy, right from wrong, abc, 123 , clolours, to read, write, walk, to socilaize, you help with home work, food science is part of cooknig and baking, cycling swimming trampolining etc is all pe, ni fact your home educating all the time outside school hours, so why force a child to stay in a school that your child unhappy with, which in turn makes them emotionally unhappy, which affects their education, school is not legal, an education is, you as the parent are legally duty bound to ensure your child recieves a suitible education not the state, yes I am dyslexic, but my child's education has not been affected by this, she doing well, for more infomation go to education otherwise, or education everywhere groups, their is over 100,000+ home ed families in the uk alone and we support each other and meet up and educate our children on fund educational days out, we do not need to follow the school curicullum, or school hours either, many use autonomous education, ( wiki it )

  • DS

    2 years ago

    DS

    Question for Jodie - how does one recover when there is no-one to turn to - when the bullying is from pupils, teachers and parents (a combination of verbal, physical and worst of all, the fear from threats of violence!). Having watched this programme for the 3rd time, it has brought back some "blocked" memories - as well as making me question what happened during periods of "blocked out" memories from my youth - but to be honest, I'm too fearful to unblock that part of my life. I think I may need a bit of assistance..........However, the problem is when your trust in all those in authority has been destroyed, how does one open up oneself to that vulnerability again?

  • Emma

    2 years ago

    Emma

    Bullying can be very subtle and not every child/teen is going to tell someone about being bullied, and teachers aren't going to notice due to the work load that government expects from them. I have been bullied throughout my life not just at school but at work as well and its not nice either. One thing that people who have been or are being bullied have to remember is that something can be done about it, and to stay strong there are people out there that love you and don't want to see you hurt.

  • flueresimul

    2 years ago

    flueresimul

    Jodie, In your career this is the part you will be thought of most for. The impact your programme has had reading all of these comments is quite incredible. You've opened up a very frightening & isolated world & shown generations of people who have experienced the same horrific abuse that it's not them personally, the type of person that bullies will always create an excuse. One final thought, your a gorgeous looking girl and you don't need quite as much make up for people to see that.

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  • mel

    2 years ago

    mel

    i was bullied at school over 20 years ago, one girl stopped my whole class talking to me and i don t know why to this day! its effected my confidence and self esteem and i constantly still worry about what poeple think of me, i don t always feel as if i 'fit in'. i have a daughter now and feel very protective.

  • Natasha

    2 years ago

    Natasha

    After surviving bullying myself over 30 years ago, I was devastated when I discovered that my child was being bullied. Maybe because it had happened to me, I reacted immediately and went to my daughter's teacher and the headmaster. Both played the situation down and even suggested that my daughter was making it up in order to manipulate me. Completely outraged, I decided not to waste any more time, and took her out of school. She is very happy now, and she repeatedly says how grateful she is that I believed her. My advice to parents: act fast and don't allow teachers or other authorities to pacify you. It seems they are more interested in protecting the school's reputation than the safety of one child.

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  • Laura

    2 years ago

    Laura

    This programme was SUPERB! Well done to Jodie Marsh, I have a new found respect for you after watching the programme. Bullying can destroy people's lives & I'm so glad it's finally being highlighted. This country has a CHRONIC bullying problem & something needs to be done because these "anti-bullying policies" are very difficult to enforce. I also wanted to add that the headmaster of Jodie's old school should have had the decency to invite her in & offer an apology at the very least. Well done to all of you who were brave enough to tell your story, I still don't have the strength to talk about my childhood bullying & I am 27. Many thanks xXx

  • sabina

    2 years ago

    sabina

    this programme was great, but made me cry as i was bullied badly at school and it did bring back some memories. for those of you who want to help with bullying if you contact beat bullying, you can be a volunteer mentor and talk to other as i currently do this also i have set up a page on fbook called youth solutions to help with bullying, please take a look as is for anyone being bullied or is concerned about someone they know. thank you

  • Passionate Anonymous

    2 years ago

    Passionate Anonymous

    Just wanted to say thank you for doing these 'My secret past' series. Really inspirational and shows how you can pull through such tough things and revels how some people actually get treated in their lives. I would like to say that I am so sorry that bullying stopped Jodie from her ambition as a Vet. I hope this shows to anyone else out there who has previously been bullied to perserver with their dreams and goals and show the bullies up! I certainly know that's my aim in life. Prove I was worth far more then they made me feel. Thank you.

  • Felicity (Fil)

    2 years ago

    Felicity (Fil)

    As I read the Headmasters comments all I see is that bullyng is still continuing to go on in that school as he obviously cannot see it ever happened, I also see a very brave lady who want to help others, good for her I say, I was bullied at school for several reasons, my religion, my glasses, my hair, my parents, thanksfully I have grown beyond it now and always try to help others if they are sufferng, just to be a shoulder to lean or or an ear to iisten.

  • Bell

    2 years ago

    Bell

    Gosh, you're absolutely right. Beauty is SO much more important than truth, isn't it?

  • reggie

    2 years ago

    reggie

    Zoe you are so beautiful you look just like rachel mcadams. the above comment is stupid! So what if she wants to up her profile? She is doing it in a positive way and helping people! I do not think aboves comment is correct.

  • A school in Derbyshire

    2 years ago

    A school in Derbyshire

    I was tied to a tree and set on fire, and urinated on. That's just the start. I moved from my loving parents in England to Australia to get away. I am now 45 and I am doing fine as far as society sees things. However, I am not the person I was supposed to be and I am still angry. It did not make me stronger etc etc.

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  • Millie

    2 years ago

    Millie

    i was bullied throughout year 7 and still carried on i still get a couple things said now but thanks to this program i will try to look on the bright side. this made me cry as i used to cut my hair and wanted to do bad things but thanks to my family and friends i got through this.

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  • Emma

    2 years ago

    Emma

    This was really sad...those poor kids. I think Jodie is doing a great job in trying to help now so it does not hinder kids futures. I just wish Jodie was around when I went to school. I was bullied throughout my high school years. It had a huge impact on my life...then and now. I have many issues and a coping mechanism that is not healthy at all. I am nearly 38 years old and although my high school bullies are no longer around...I can still hear/see them and live in a bully situation now by my parents. Help as many people as you can Jodie xxx

  • jenna-may

    2 years ago

    jenna-may

    its a beautiful thing to watch and to know that someone who is a model and as beautiful as she is got bullied i was bullied by my school and by my dad so i had no were to go to feel safe! i loved school but couldnt handel the way people treated me!! i was called ugly, stupid people would throw gum in my hair and my bag, if i stuck up for myself i would get sent to the head master who also bullied me, i would explain what had happened and told its all in my head and that i was the bully for sticking up for my self, i never left school i always tried to make it better in my head but it got worse when my grandma died and i got disgusting comments things that would make u be sick and thats when i could bare to live any more and did things to my self to get rid of the pain in my head....this program made me think of all the times it happend and i look back at it and laugh because i know my life is better because i made it better thank u jodie <3 xx

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  • Holly

    2 years ago

    Holly

    I'm still in school and I still get bullied its nice to know that i am not alone and that nearly everyone gets bullied sometime in their life. I have suffered from boys and girls calling me offensive names about my appearance, teeth and my accent. This never stops, it just keeps going and going...I am learning now that bullies are not part of my life and that I'm not going to change for them, I will be myself and if they don't like it, then its their problem. This show has taught me a lot and made me more confidence and stronger inside and out of myself.

  • Caroline Briggs

    2 years ago

    Caroline Briggs

    This progrom brough back a lot of memories for me as I was bullied at school about my looks for 2 and half year. Im only 5ft2 and I has to have a lots othodontics on my teeth and I was called every name under the sun from metal mouth, goofy shorty,miget you name it i was called it. I came to a point when I would not smile in pictures and not eat infront of people because I did not want hear the vile comments. My dad is a dentist and he would always say me your not ugly and your teeth will look amazing when your treatment is finish, but I knew I had to go though 3yrear of treatement befor I saw that, that was in year 8 by the time I got half way though year 9 thing had got a lot worse, my book and pen ect started to going missing from my bag and I was alway be keept back after school and told I was unorganised and i was lazy. I finally broke down and told my mum when I kept saying i was ill as i did not want to go too school, she could not belive id kept it from her that long, they went to the school but the school did not belive me and I made me wright a stupid diary of my day just to prove that i was being bullied.....quiet petheic really as i was at a private school and my parents were paying thousand a term! I makes me soo angry when I think about it and my parent had to take me out that school and put me into a differnt one jst in time for me start my first GCSE year. I do feel my grades were affected by this...!! Im now 26 been with my boyfirend 2years my teeth are staighter and I had them whitened which makes it a litte easier but im still consciouse with my teeth. I still find it hard sometimes when people say things that are ment as a joke I do take it to heart but am learning to let go. I will never forget what thoses bullies did too me! Some of them have added me on fb and written me email to appogise how they treated me. Think ive been more of the grown up one trying to accept their apologies!

  • susan

    2 years ago

    susan

    could relate to everything that was said in this programme, especially Jodies thoughts on revisiting her old school. was recently invited to a reunion at my old school which was closing and being demolished, couldn't think of anything I would rather have done less! Thirty three years on and after watching this programme it seems nothing has changed, as human beings we should be ashamed of ourselves that we still allow this to happen :(

  • Luke

    2 years ago

    Luke

    I seem to be unique, as I actually know what causes bullying in schools. I have certainly never heard of a teacher or a headmaster who knows what the cause of bullying is - but I do. Its lack of supervision. If children are left unsupervised, bullying will inevitably happen. If a child is bullied at school - it's not the victims fault, obviously, is not the bully's fault either - it's the teachers' fault. Teachers should be made accountable for children who have their lives ruined by bullying, while the people paid to look after them sit lazing in the staff room. Anti bullying policies don’t work - It's time to consider the possibilities of legal action at against schools that fail to protect pupils from bullying.

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  • Hannah

    2 years ago

    Hannah

    When I was at secondary school years 7-11 I was badly bullied. it was verbal at first then it turned into a small amount of physical where it looked like it was an accident so the bullies get away with it. I was always really quiet and really shy before the bullying, My education went down hill from year 7 I was working at year 5-6 stage not at a year 7. The school never did a lot for me. I got told about this program after I told someone I was bullied, I watched it online and I felt I wanted to cry all the way through. Thank you for making this documentry as I feel its so important that everybody is aware so this so that children can be helped through bullying.

  • Demi

    2 years ago

    Demi

    I can totally relate to this. When in primary school i was bullied, then through out secondary school i was too. Always happened to my brother. We have had our house eggs hundreds of times, car smashed, got threatened to have fireworks through our front door, treatened to get stabbed. I have been in the 15year old lads position, i'm always having the thought about death but don't think i would go through it. People say you get bullied because people our jealous of you but realistically they just think bullying is a game! Being bullied is not a game it's the most hurtful thing you could really go through, throughout your schooling. Even though now i have been out of school for a year now and i still get bullied. I can't even go into town anymore or sit on a bus without things happening. I really look up to people who have made it in life, gone through being bullied and became stronger and shown the bullies what you are made of. Even though bullying will never stop, and schools FAIL to sort it out, you should ALWAYS stick up for yourself. Fight back in what you believe in, show them who's boss and don't let them come between you and your life. I Have taken that much now i just get my own back when they are least expecting it. Also once i have moved out of here the better.

  • angela

    2 years ago

    angela

    Just watched jodie. Saw a side of her that changed my option of her totally, what a wonderful warm human being. The programe brought back some horrible memories from school. I was bullied in every school I attended, and I really cant remember any good times ,,just always being scared , and wanted to fit in so much. I am now 43 and my daughter has just made a english film just about this, and how a poor child feels there is no way out other then to die,, not to be around anymore so then they wont need to be scared any more, Jodie well done u., It can never be forgotten, you learn to deal and live with it. and try to help stop it happening to someone you know, child or adult.

  • Sue

    2 years ago

    Sue

    Just watched this in tears most of the way through it. The girl who is modelling now is absolutely stunning and for her bullies to tell her she was ugly just shows how stupid, pathetic and selfish bullies are. I got badly bullied throughout my school years too, verbally abused and forced into fights and it affected me throughout my life. I'm now 44 with two kids but i still hate confrontation of any sort unless i'm really pushed to stand up for myself or my family. I have to be honest and say i never really liked Jodie in her old modelling days but after seeing her on celeb BB and getting more of an insight to her as the person she is i think it's great she's done what she has and made this programme. Well done Jodie, keep up the good work. Bullies are thoughtless, nasty people and shouldn't be allowed to get away with what they do.

  • sophie

    2 years ago

    sophie

    im sorry but her nose looks worse now what the hell is the upturned bit at the end all about. her nose looks a right mess now she didnt need all the plastic surgery

  • A proud Mandie Marriott

    2 years ago

    A proud Mandie Marriott

    Jodie, I love you. You're so lovely ! So pretty and warm and 'real' and your mum is lovely. You're so the right person to be getting involved in stopping bullying. I'm 50. I was set fire to and burnt at school, tied to a tree and undressed. Chased. Beaten. Had my head flushed down the loo so many times I hoped I would drown. One time it was full of their wee.They all weed in it first. But i'm fine ! Ironically, one of the bullies was a waitress at my wedding, in an art gallery. She just couldn't look at me ! But I looked at her....... ha ha. She was beetroot for the whole 4 hours. Jodie, you're like everyone's best mate; genuine and caring. I really love you. xxxxx

  • S

    2 years ago

    S

    What a great programme i have just watched it, and it makes me sad that children are STILL going through this pain when will it stop. while the heads of schools and politicians wont except that this terrible thing goes on we will all have to make a stand to try and stop this. Jodie well done great job i hope you continue the fight and get people with you there are so many that have and are going through this. i was bullied and like many others considered to take my own life but i did not want to let them win in any way. Zoe you are a great lady well done. The parents i am so sorry for your loss u r so strong to go on the programme and i hope the kids that did it realise what they have done. To the girl hannah who is being bullied and calling out for help please please tell your parents if u cant do this then phone child line and get their help and support. To everyone else we can all become strong and we are better than these people that are so insecure.

  • Liz

    2 years ago

    Liz

    This was a really moving programme. I'm 31 and am still affected by the way I was treated by girls I went to school with over half my life ago. They left me with feelings it's hard to completely override and although I never think of THEM, the legacy of what I had to deal with from such a young age has been very long-lasting. Over the last 2 years I've gradually gained confidence and their voices are getting quieter. I've suffered from chronic depression since I was 15 years old and only last year did I mention my bullying to my counsellor, I'd never spoken about it to anyone I'd seen before, I thought any mental health professional would think such a thing trivial. He did not and treated my concerns and hurt with absolute respect. He didn't think that just because I'd been 11 years old when it started that it was irrelevant, in fact that I'd been enduring such things from such a young age, I think it made it even more relevant. I don't recall this but, apparently at the time, my mum went to a parents' evening and my teacher, who knew what was going on, said, 'I think she's coping exceptionally well with the girls in her class', and my mum said, 'what do you mean?' Because I hadn't told her. There's so much shame involved for the victims, for it makes one feel so weak and pathetic, especially when the taunts are seemingly innocuous but are relentless in their repetition. When people I know from school say "I miss school, it was the best time of my life" I cannot join in the conversation as my experience bears no resemblance to theirs. I wouldn't go back for anything, not unless I was allowed to go back armed with what I know now. I couldn't imagine having a child and finding out they were being bullied, it would break my heart as there's so little a parent can do.

  • Han

    2 years ago

    Han

    I cried so hard watching this, Jodie really was brave to tell her story and bring bullying and its horrible features into the limelight, giving young people an insight and better understanding of just how much it can hurt.

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  • ...

    2 years ago

    ...

    This was filmed at my old school where I was bullied. I was bullied for about 3 or 4 years at different schools. But it calmed down when I moved to Churnet View. Millie is a good friend of mine and its horrible to see her this upset.

  • natalie

    2 years ago

    natalie

    i totaly know were jodie was coming from as i was bullied verbally and physically at school fom the age of 7 to the age of 15. it started with calling me names as my school uniform was handed down from my oldest sister, down to my middle sister down to me, so you can amagine what it was like by the time it got to me. i always whent to school clean but it was the uniform that was old and i was the smallist in my year. by the time i was 11 and moving to the bigger school it got worse by them pulling my hair becouse it was long (down to my knee's). then they started throwing things at me like rubbers, wet tissue, pencels, pens, rullers, sharpiners, compasis and what ever else they could find to through at me. the kids used to tell the teachers that i was steeling all this and thats why it was all around me. one time when a boy through a compase at me it went into my leg, i told the teacher that i needed to go loo (just to clean it and stick tissie on it to soak the bload). then 1 day this boy picked up a shuvel from the school veg patch (the teacher was nowere to be seen) but when the teacher came back and sore me on the deck the pupels just said i fainted and banged my head (as it was bleeding) it was soft earth all around me no stones or rocks but the teachers believed them all. a girl cut a chunk of my very long hair from the neck line as she walked past me. there was always hitting me and putching me but 1 day they maid my friend take me to a local park at lunch time (i dident know what was going on) when i got there there must of been near on 100 or more pupils there. agirl came up to me and said I HAVE TO FIGHT YOU and kept on saying it even though i had braises on my teath and i kept on sayin that i wasent going to fight with her and i wasent going to hit her back. all the pupuls surkled around me and this girl. i kept my hands by the side of me the hole time, she started punching my face and would not stop, after about 20mins the friend that took me there dragged me out off the croud and you can giese what my face was like, me and the girl was sent to the head, he just said shake hands and be friends or he would tell are parents, so we did with tissue stuck in my cheeks and on my cuts. i would like to say that i could go to my parents BUT NO. as they were doing worse to me at home by bothof them, but thats a hole nother story. when i was having councerling years later i was asked were was my happy place in my childhood? all i could say was i dident have one, as on the way to school i was so scared what they were going to do to me there and then coming home i was petrafied what was going to happeren to me at home, SO NO I DIDENT HAVE A HAPPY PLACE. im now 39 can i say you forgive and forget as you get older NO but you can learn to live with it and move on with yourlife and not to keep looking back. i would just like to add that iwas very depressed back then, but i am happier since i have had councerling.

  • John

    2 years ago

    John

    Ugh!

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  • taryyn

    2 years ago

    taryyn

    Zoe, is so beautiful and strong <3

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  • P

    2 years ago

    P

    I would never wish to belittle an individual's suffering. The elements that are deliberately left out of a particular story, however, make it ring false - rather cynically so. Does it matter if a large part of the underlying motive is, perhaps inevitably, self-promotion, rather than a desire to genuinely understand the nature of bullying? I would observe that the contribution from the psychiatrist was worded as though he was explaining something to a 3 year-old - and yet the programme was presumably, given the time of airing, aimed at an adult & teenage audience? I hope that those who feel able to seek help for present or past bullying do so from childline or a real counselling service rather than pinning their hopes on a celebrity whose own insight seems limited to snarling 'I hate bullies', as though bullying, and the propensity for blind hatred, were not part of every one of us.

  • C

    2 years ago

    C

    I totally agree with ‘I Will Survives’ comment. I was psychologically bullied from when I moved schools at the age of 8 till I left school at 18 years old by the same group of girls. The girls parents, my teachers and the Head teacher were all aware of what was happening but because the girls were not ‘bad’ pupils they did absolutely nothing about it. The even better joke of it was that in 6th year they set up a Bully Advice group to help younger kids and who lead it and stopped me from getting involved – the same group of girls. My Mum did look at moving me to a different school but in a way I felt that it would mean they had won and I thought it could have been even worse. If I could go back in time I would have changed schools. Like the people in the programme I considered suicide many times but the only thing that stopped me was my Mum. She had been through so much that I couldn’t have put her through that too. Due to the bullying I suffer from low self esteem which I believe led to me being bullied in the workplace also. I have tried various forms of therapy but simply can’t afford to keep going (my GP won’t refer me but that’s a whole other issue!!) I would have liked to have heard from some reformed bullies to ask why they did it. Normally it’s due to their own insecurities and poor parenting. I am now 33 years old and still affected by what happened to me. What did help however was confronting my bullies. At the age of 18 when we had left school they tried to get me thrown out of a nightclub. Something just flipped inside me and I confronted the gang (who were hiding in the toilets) and for once I was the one with the control and power and they ended up leaving the nightclub and not bothering me again. This was without any physical confrontation just purely by telling them that they were pathetic human beings and I was not going to put up with their abuse. I wish I had done it sooner. I would like to say to anyone being bullied that you are the better, stronger person. You have to stay strong and take the control away from your bullies because then they are powerless to hurt you anymore.

  • L

    2 years ago

    L

    Good post P. Looks like mines beeen removed. Doesn't look like correction on the choice of cases is allowed.

  • rogsexysummers

    2 years ago

    rogsexysummers

    great show x such a good watch so sad but also shows people why bullying is not fun or clever x shame channel 5 showed it 10 mins after a women was in tears after 500 people booed and shouted abuse at her as she left the big brother house is that not bullying!!!

  • hannah

    2 years ago

    hannah

    Hi jodie its hannah again, its happend again I'm out of skl now the teachurs can't see me ill 11:15 I have to go hme, I dnt learn ifeel like rubbish every day; now I getting pushed to and from classes, when my perants go in they always ask "what has hannah done?" Everyone always says "NOTHING hannah hasn't done anything"! I don't know what I should do anymore

  • Dunc

    2 years ago

    Dunc

    Jodie Marsh was excellent!! I cried most of the way through the programme. The bullies never win in the end!!

  • Debz

    2 years ago

    Debz

    omg that documentrey just brought tears to my eyes, my heart goes out to the people who have been bullied, and hopefully through time they will get through it and realise they are perfect, and to people who has been bullied open up and tell somebody do not hold anything in,

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  • P

    2 years ago

    P

    Emotive but not particularly enlightening, and a rather selective portrayal of some events. The documentary neglected to mention that Zoe's father was Head of Upper School during her entire time there (and yet things never got so bad that he needed to step in?!), and that she was elected Head Girl by fellow students. As commented above, there could have been many more convincing (and horrific) case studies from that school alone... but I guess models are more TV-worthy, aren't they?

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  • Aimee

    2 years ago

    Aimee

    i am from that area its called kirk hallam and that school was st john haughton school cathloic school too, was shocked 2 see jodie marsh came 2 kirk hallam!

  • jansel

    2 years ago

    jansel

    when i was watching this show today, it made me cry, and im a girl who had to put up with my own familys words and rumors and it really hurt and once i did come to a point i cant take it and did try doing things but it seem to not work, theres probably people out there going throw worse things then i have but i think ive had such a terrible childhood, im 16 and it seem to get worse as i grow up, being called something you aint or have to shut up to what people say is just a killer, and i came to a point where im gonna give up and thats what im scared of the most, but no matter how much you get hurt ive learnt to smile and look strong

  • Muhammed

    2 years ago

    Muhammed

    Thanks to Jodie and the channel and the Producers for this programme! Watching her and them 3 kids at school.. made me break down in tears! No kid or anyone should go through this in their lives.. I just want to help kids now that are being bullied now in local schools.. it's funny how the bullies who are insecure themselves project that hurt and pain onto someone else and the bullied kids grow stronger and become better people but not all and some do resort to desperate measures as a way out.. It's all about being there for people and kids and giving your support and listening to them...

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  • tina

    2 years ago

    tina

    my son connor has been severly bullied at school the school tried to blame it on my son saying he may have issues because he would often go into baby mood, i tried to tell them time and time again the reason he was doing this, but nothing was done they referred my son to see if he was autistic and he wasnt. it was his way of coping with the problems. what was happening with connor he would go into a shell and baby mood this was his way of coping, sometimes he would tell me he didnt want to live nomore the school have done nothing to stop this it is still happening now, i worry for my son because he goes high school in september and it will be worse for him because he still goes into baby mood, im trying so hard to build his confidence i have kept him home on several occasions, i am thinking of home teaching him in september which is not fair because, if these issues were dealt with properly my son would act a normal child. it so sad but the school does nothing to stop it and im left with a sad child and i feel like i punish him by sending him to school and school should always be the safest place but in this case its not. more needs to be done and these schools need to be named and shamed.

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  • Elizabeth McFarlane

    2 years ago

    Elizabeth McFarlane

    Thank you Jodie and producers for that show I was bullied at school and recently in the workplace which reawakened old memories. I spoke up this time and was told that it was my own fault. Bullying happens at all levels but I won't let it affect me negatively this time They are not worth it!

  • Jonathan Destiny

    2 years ago

    Jonathan Destiny

    I found this programme compulsive viewing and cried when seeing the little girl speaking of her torment. I am 41 now but the psychological scars still linger. I have never discussed what I went through with anyone and probably never will. It's just too painful. Ironically at the time and for many years following I never really thought about my experiences. It has only been recently that memories have come back and it has played a part in my life. I think about the bullies and how weak they were. They lived on my street, my parents were friends with theirs and they were civil to be when on their own. It was in a group that they turned on me. I remember the teachers that sided with the bullies (one slapped me in the face) and made it quite clear I was the one that should change. However, I also remember the few acts of kindness and frienship and loyalty I experienced and this, too, remains firm in the memory. No doubt my personality has been affected by my experiences and I do sometimes become withdrawn and lack some confidence but I feel I am a stronger and more genuine person for what happened. In other words I try to make good of what was a quite horrible situation.

  • Sarah

    2 years ago

    Sarah

    Great show. Well done Jodie! Just wanted to say what a intelligent and beautiful young women Zoe is. Don't let the bullies win.

  • Sandra T

    2 years ago

    Sandra T

    I have just watched this programme and my son, now aged 30, was bullied at secondary school. He used to be an ice dancer - whether that was the reason I don't know. He suffered for a year. He used to come home every night crying and ssaying how lonely it was and he would go out every morning crying. He didn't want to change his class, although after a year he did. He was in Canada in his twenties, skating with a Canadian girl and he phoned me one day saying he had a strange e-mail. A boy who bullied him, whom I don't know, e-mailed him and apologised for being such a dope and putting my son through everything. Even his best friend at school, as he thought, turned against him. I was extremely proud of my son because he went through it all, took his exams and came out the other end. I always said to him that he was very strong for carrying on and he said he wasn't going to let those people put him off what he wanted to do. He is now a loving, kind son and he is the youngest of three. By the way, my husband was bullied at school and he hated bullies, as does Jodie.

  • peaige

    2 years ago

    peaige

    when i was at secondary school i got bullied. Thank you Jodie

  • Muhammed

    2 years ago

    Muhammed

    Thanks to Jodie and the channel and the Producers for this programme! Watching her and them 3 kids at school.. made me break down in tears! No kid or anyone should go through this in their lives.. I just want to help kids now that are being bullied now in local schools.. it's funny how the bullies who are insecure themselves project that hurt and pain onto someone else and the bullied kids grow stronger and become better people but not all and some do resort to desperate measures as a way out.. It's all about being there for people and kids and giving your support and listening to them...

  • samantha

    2 years ago

    samantha

    Jodie did a great show it just goes to show bullying is still get out of hand, I was bullied through primary and secondary school in went too. Even today people who bully still seem to bring people down to their lowest (in confidence). People who are victims of bullying should talk to someone who they think would be understanding and easy to listen what they have to say, they should never keep quiet about it . Bullies always think it great making someone else's life miserable but it ain't they are nothing but stupid idiot's that can't think of anything that is useful to do. (i can think of stronger words for bullies but i wont put the words on here).Being a victim of bullying is horrible it does effect you most of your life even thou people say it don't, those people who aren't bullied don't know what their talking about. I still hate thous people who bullied me and i would never forgive them for making my life hell. If any body is getting bullied please talk to someone don't keep quiet thats the worst thing to do, cos the bullies will think they win.

  • jenna gibson

    2 years ago

    jenna gibson

    iwas billed at school for jesloy of high attence 1999 it is a good idear to let peole no 0ut there billeding is not nice

  • jenna gibson

    2 years ago

    jenna gibson

    i love the progame iwas bullied at school pyslic and words as well girl called rachel white kick me in the head in class room 1999

  • Mikayla

    2 years ago

    Mikayla

    Jodie did a great job doing this programme. So sorry she was bullied as a child, but at least she is a better person than those who bullied her. This applies to all people who are bullied, you are all better people than those who bully you ...

  • Laura

    2 years ago

    Laura

    Such a brilliant programme. I was bullied at school 10 years ago by a group of girls who were supposed to be my best friends who then turned my whole tutor group against me. I hated going to school everyday. Luckily I have such a supportive family who got me through the verbal bullying but I know it has affected my confidence in myself and still find it a struggle to accept that people like me. I can't take criticism very well so I will try extra hard to avoid it by sometimes pushing myself too hard in order to ensure people have no negative feelings towards me. I still have bad dreams about what I went through. This programme should be shown more and more should be done to stop these bullies in schools.

  • Mum2Minxes

    2 years ago

    Mum2Minxes

    Great programe Jodie, I was bullied (mainly punched) at school 11 years old because I had a posh accent, my dad told me to punch back, I was so scared I really did not want to, but i did in the end and the bullying stopped. In fact the main bully wanted to be my friend. I have twin girls so I will be keeping an eye on them both, 1. incase they become bullies or 2. being bullied.

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  • Caz

    2 years ago

    Caz

    Absolutley fantastic. I think this should be shown in all schools, maybe the bullies will think twice about what they do to people. My daughter is currently a victim of bullying.

  • samantha

    2 years ago

    samantha

    Jodie did an brilliant thing doing a show on being bullied i watched it and it brought back the memories of myself when i was bullied growing up, i was bullied through both school's i went too. Bullies try to make their victims feel like nothing, they have no idea how later on in their victims life it effects the people they bully.

  • ?

    2 years ago

    ?

    watching this made me teary eye'd. it bought back all the times i was bullied. ive never spoke to anyone about when i was bullied not even my family because i don't think anyone will or would understand.

  • Michele

    2 years ago

    Michele

    Jodie did an excellent programme, and as I campaign to help bullied children with the aim of seeing an end to anxiety, eating disorders, self harm and suicide, I would invite Channel 5 to put me in touch with Jodie. Thanks to everyone who produced this brilliant portrayal of bullying including Jodie.

  • jc

    2 years ago

    jc

    Dear Jodie i home educate my son and he is with Red Balloon Learner Centre Recovery For Bullied Children he has been out of education for over three years since 12 years old. Could you please contact Michele Fudge ( anti-bullying campaigner for The silent voice campaign) you can contact us both you need to get in touch with Channel 5 Producer Giles Winn he has our contact details. Also if you get in touch with Red Balloon please contact the Cambridge office. We need your support. It broke my heart to listen to your experience as a parent of a bullied child it just bought back ao many awful memories. Please get in touch with Channel 5 they have our details

  • Denise

    2 years ago

    Denise

    All I can say Is thank god facebook wasn't around when I was being bullied at school. The hate phone calls I recived where enough but publicly displaying hate on a social networking site is taking lives of children who just desperately want to be accept and can't understand where the hate comes from ...it can feel like it will never stop. Do the children that spread this hate really understand what they are doing? these bullies are becoming murderers....children! When they grow up will the stop and think what they did to another ...maybe when their children come home and say "mum/dad I'm being bullied" they will stop and remember what they did as a child. I will always support anti bullying...no child or adult for that matter should feel like theres no other way but to take their own life and no child/adult should think its acceptable to be so cruel.

  • jayne

    2 years ago

    jayne

    Fantastic programme, come on kids speak up, don't let weak bullies get the better of you, be yourself and be proud!

  • James

    2 years ago

    James

    This show has really happed me, i am at college studying Animal care i want to be come a vet but some of the people in my class are bullying and calling me names everyday. I wanted to drop out of college but when i watching this show it really heppened me to stay in college and be myself.

  • c

    2 years ago

    c

    thats my school and its great you r a bully yourself for doing this because now im being bullied by people at St martins for this when you were just in a bad group of people. You have ruined peoples lives I hope you are happy. You let the bullies take over. Its youre fault.

  • andrew

    2 years ago

    andrew

    R.I.P Tom, my friend from school :(

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  • Debbie Hunter

    2 years ago

    Debbie Hunter

    Debbie The program was good although bought back a lot of memories and just like Jodie and her mum i to got no help from the school they just totaly brushed it off and at one point we were told it was cheeper for them to loose one pupil rather than 3 or 4 bullies. This problem will only get worse and time will tell as i am 48 now and my daughter is 26 her bullying was so bad that it has made her not want children because she cant risk them going through the same thing. I would love to be a grand parent but i am so glad i still have my daughter.

  • amanda westacott

    2 years ago

    amanda westacott

    i only just whach the show i was bullied at school for beeing Dyslexia it not nice and it shod be stop im glad jodie did the show it must of been hard for her and the pepol in it to speck out i love to get invold in stoping bulliing

  • L Mitchell

    2 years ago

    L Mitchell

    What a lovely girl Jodie is. I was so angry & upset when I saw the comment from the headmaster at Jodie's previous school - that he was sorry she 'believed' she'd been bullied, rather that that he was sorry she 'was' bullied. If he refused to believe the truth how on earth are his new policies to combat it possibly going to work? How ignorant! Not believing the victims is no way to stop bullying!

  • Tracy Lister

    2 years ago

    Tracy Lister

    Jodie, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about your programme and how much it must have helped so many people realise they are not alone. I am a 41 year old woman who was bullied all of her school life both primary and secondary and even I felt assured by your warmth and level of compassion you showed to these poor kids who are being subjected to this treatment on a daily basis. What upsets me most is how after 24 years I still remember all those horrible feelings of dread having to go to school, the taunts, the words that will always stay in my head and how I still believe some of the things they actually said to me. It only eased up for me when I was in the sixth form and all the other bullies left expect one!!! Funny how they were not so brave when all their mates were not about. Nothing was ever said once they all left and I sort of blossomed and enjoyed my last two years of school. It was like a weight had been lifted from me and I enjoyed waking up in the morning to a new day. I grew up in a happy, loving home and was very lucky to have supportive parents and brothers and sisters, however, some children are not this fortunate and even now hearing that teachers still turn a blind eye to what is actually going on sickens me. I now have a two year old little girl and I can’t even begin to tell you how worried I am in case she has to go through the same experiences as me. The bullying seems to have kicked up a level now and involves more physical violence that’s seems so much more acceptable in this day and age. I want to wrap my little girl up in cotton wool and not expose her to this vile society but I know this is unavoidable. Even now I suffer with very low self esteem, confidence issues and a form of body dis-morphia. I have had to have counselling and was on antidepressants at one stage to try and cope with the feelings these cruel people had left me with. They always say forgive and forget but I can’t, bullies are cruel through and through and once a bully, always a bully. I see it in my workplace even now, who may I add have a no bullying policy but somehow the HR department still choose to ignore it!!! All I can say is always tell someone, don’t suffer in silence, always be true to yourself and never trust anyone who has bullied you as they never change. My Mom was my rock and I know her heart must have been breaking when she could see me crying night after night, wishing I was dead or someone else other than me. I know I cant take that time back and change anything but if there are people out there like Jodie who are willing to stand up and address bullying then I am right behind them as I feel it is a ‘CRIME’ in this country that needs addressing. Too many lives have been wasted trying to deal with being bullied at school or even worse lives have been lost and this should never happen. Jodie you're amazing and don't ever forget that, you have done a fantastic job with your programme. TX

  • laura

    2 years ago

    laura

    Well done

  • leanne

    2 years ago

    leanne

    I think its a good thing to make people aware of bulllying. But I dont think this show is a way of doing so. At the end of the day 99.9 percent of bully's are actually victims of some kind of abuse themselves. I am by no means condoning it. I just think that as a show, you need to be able to show both sides of the coin. How can you fight against something without fully understanding it? Knowledge is power people....

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  • Gaz williams

    2 years ago

    Gaz williams

    Great programme, well done Jodie. Zoe is beautiful and clever, the bullies must of been sad and jealous. If you had those skills in our comprehensive school in my day you were applauded.

  • Katie

    2 years ago

    Katie

    I love Jodie Marsh she's such an inspiration, I can relate to everything, but, i'm still only 14. I do cut myself and i'm very suicidal and i have depression and i'm bipolar. I want more episodes of this, it really helps. Thank you for making this! <3 xxx

  • Chi

    2 years ago

    Chi

    More should be done about bully. It is a silent killer

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  • Annette

    2 years ago

    Annette

    After watching Jodies programme on bullying, it bought back so many memories for both my daughter and myself. my daughter was bullied by a large group of girls as she entered secondary school. Always having been very sporty and a tomboy these girls took a dislike to the attention she had from the boys. They made her life hell! she had been called names, told she ate like a pig and so she stopped eating, she increased her sporting activity and exercised after any small morsal she ate. This ended in her having a lack of energy to compete in the sports she loved, her skin flaked and her hair began to fall out. As time went by the bullys uped their game by using modern technology, they used the internet messaging and after engineering a situation where they were able to obtain her mobile phone number and home phone number, the bullying became a 24/7 thing. We too spoke to the school who had prided themselves on their anti-bullying policy did nothing, well that was untrue, her tutor was not sympathetic and actually told my husband and myself that she had bought it on her self! I had caught my daughter with a packet of tablets and a bottle of medicine at her desk, I am glad i did because the thought of what could have been haunts me. I felt for Tom's parents and my thoughts are with them and his family. The last straw was when the bullies pushed her down the main concrete staircase in school, and still they did nothing! After many visits and calls to the school we decided to take her out of school and move out of the area. My daughter started at her new school in a different county, i know we should not of given into them and moved, but at that stage we felt it was the best thing to do. Although she has big trust issues with girl, friends she did very well. She finished school and went onto college and became a beauty therapist, then gained a job working for a presiege cosmetic and skin care company. I am so proud of my daughter and what she has become, she is beautifull. I know that with time and encouragement Zoe, Millie and Ashley will overcome their experiences. They too like Jodie and my daughter are both beautiful inside and out, something in this bad world is rare. Jealousy is a bad and dangerous thing, dont let it win! Well done Jodie and channel 5, Zoe, Millie and Ashley for being so brave x x x

  • craig AKA MR RED RAG

    2 years ago

    craig AKA MR RED RAG

    i got bullied thru school left at 14 i suffered mental,verbal and physical abuse at school. my bullying tourment ended up on ITV News and Liverpool Echo but this made it worse id get threatend in the street with knives and i used to get beaten up. after i left school i took to the street and my life spiraled out of control drugs and alcohol i used to hide the scars at the age of 16 i was diagnosed with cancer twice and now i cant have children and people call me cancer victim and call me things about not having kids and having mental health over the past 6 years ive tried suicide 40 times due to the bullying at home,school and my cancer and mental health problems i am now violent and abusive. i wish i stood up to the bullys many years ago then maybe id have an easier life. i had testicular cancer due to someone repeatly punching me iin the testicles. i am now married at 19 and using music to channel the pain. i would like to speak to jodie and hope she gets intouch.

  • Rita Bernard

    2 years ago

    Rita Bernard

    Thank you Jodie for making this. You still get bullied by mindless adults yet you still do your very best to live your life to the fullest. I admire your courage and confidence. My son has been bullied for the last eight yrs he is 13 and very small. He was born with a cleft lip and had to also have an op on his nose which is as he is growing got a bend in....he has moderate ADHD and aspergers...this is why he is the school target. It's week after week and different people who bully him. Mental physical and verbally he gets it all...the school he is at he loves..just not the kids. The school just has a word and most of the time don't believe my son as it happens so frequently...I'm so afraid for him and his future.

  • DCJ

    2 years ago

    DCJ

    My experience of being bullied at school was not on the scale of some of your posts but I was totally moved by Jodie's documentary. Reading the comments above there are blatant cries for help. Megan, can you speak to your parents and talk to the school together? I wish Jodie had been able to name and shame her bullies on the programme last night. What would their responses have been? I have no idea if Jodie will read these posts but hope she continues to push her anti-bullying message through the media and onto Government to make some desperately needed changes to the awareness and handling of bullying in schools. I have two young children and will do anything to protect them but it worries me that I may have no idea of what's going on while they're at school. There is no excuse for bullying but at the moment there appears to be no answer to it either.

  • me!

    2 years ago

    me!

    ive watched both series of my secret past of kate and jodie and its unbelieveable how bullying has such a major impact on people who suffer from bullying. im currently being bullied myself and have been since primary school, and i still find it hard to deal with and it seems to be the toughest thing for me to cope with. it still goes on day in day out. but i feel so lucky to have support from many social workers etc. But a big well done to jodie and kate for making these programmes and being able to face the public and share whats happened to them in the past. i wish it was as easy to tell people exactly how i get bullied. it hard to let your emotions out to people who you pressume will not understand i hope that all the young people who are suffering from bullying get all the hope and support they need. noone should be made to feel in such a horriable manor.

  • Deb

    2 years ago

    Deb

    Megan, you must tell someone you trust - a teacher and your parents, whats happening to you is not your fault. Please, please tell someone today. My 6 year daughter has recently told my that she has been bullied by a girl in her class - everything from name calling to taking her lunch even telling my daughter that I was dead! I have been to see her class teacher a few times and have had a word with the girls mother, this are getting better but I'm worried about the long tern effect this could have, my daughter loved school but will try to get out of going as she is afraid of this girll. I have made sure my daugher knows that none of this is her fault and she must tell her teacher if anything else happens,

  • Vanessa

    2 years ago

    Vanessa

    Watching this programme has made me see Jodie in a totally different light. I am currently experiencing problems in my workplace but cannot get my manager to acknowledge it or do anything about it- she says it is my job- ignoring the issue like the headmaster at the end of the programme- unbelievable! I have currently been off work for 6 months which I never ever throught would happen to me.I am over 50 years old & it is ruining my life- I just wish I could believe that I will get through this- it does not feel like it at the moment. Thank god I have some excellant friends & partner who do believe & support me. I hope that all those children that made those pledges & released them with their balloons remember what they wrote & stick to it as they grow up & go through life. Watched the programme crying my eyes out & wishing that I could talk to Jodie because I know she would understand how bad I am feeling & what I am going through. Well done Jodie for making this programme & to all those people featured. Bullies should be made to watch this programme to see the effect they have on those they are bullying how ever young or old.

  • Megan

    2 years ago

    Megan

    I still get bullied. I dont know what to do, shall I tell a teacher in my school or will make it worse?

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  • Richard

    2 years ago

    Richard

    I came on here to have a laugh and think here again, jodie doing more to gather more money from the public reation but watching this has totally changed my view on her and helped me face my issues of how i got bullied in the past. I would never wish it on my worst enermy and its needs to be sorted quickly as it could effect a person later in life to be a murderer/rapist or any anti-social behaviour that can be changed asap!

  • Jamie

    2 years ago

    Jamie

    I am 27 years old and the affects of the bullying i recieved still affect me on a daily basis. When i was born i was diagnoised with a rare condition which only a few years ago i found it 2 b craniosystitis, a rare bone condition. When i was 2 years old i had an operation to remove 2 bones from my forehead which left me with a scar across my head so i was an easy target for the bullies at primary school all the way into college. But thats not where it started. When i was 4 years old i was child abused and it went on for 2 years before me and my brother were placed in a childrens home where i was bullied by other kids because of my scar, so i was already low on confidence when i started secondary school. I no iv dealt with the emotion and physical scars but watching the show really showed me that the little scars never go away when they cried i cried i never realised before how much torment people go through and i want to help so much and show and tell others about my story so i can let them no there never alone which i felt for years.

  • Jake

    2 years ago

    Jake

    I always knew jodie was a kind hearted real human, it's so sad that the media and public continue to bully a strong minded, individual character like her. Please let people be what they want to be.

  • Steph

    2 years ago

    Steph

    Well Done Jodie. No matter what visual statements she has made in the press and such in the past few years she has always remained an intelligent woman with a heart of gold. The headmaster's statement at the end of the programme just highlights what is wrong with certain schools and their approach to bullying, they will state ignorance to try and maintain the outlook look of their school at the expense of young innocent children's feelings, and sometimes as we have seen; lives. Nice one Channel 5. Let's hope this is a tiny step closer to edging the adults that are failing our children to reconsider their current actions.

  • Sean

    2 years ago

    Sean

    I think this show was a great effort at showing the psychological effects of bullying and how it can effect such a variety of people. I have never actually been affected by bullying myself and am now happily at university, however i have a very good friend who was bullied throughout secondary school and i still regret not standing up for him more to this day. it is a sad fact that small things about someones personality or looks lead them to being targeted. I was the same as him in most ways and yet because i was good at sport i was not targeted by these horrible people. jodie marsh whatever previous media etc more shows like this will continue to show the really nice side you obviously have, to all the kids that were on this show, and the family grieving for their son well done for the bravery you have shown.

  • karensmith

    2 years ago

    karensmith

    id like to watch it in peace...IT KEEPS FREEZING!!! giving up in a minute GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Heather

    2 years ago

    Heather

    The programme was great, and should be compulsory viewing in schools. Jodie Marsh was amazing! I was verbally bullied throughout most of my time at secondary school, and have suffered with a lack of confidence in myself ever since. I'm 43 now and I still wish that I could have enjoyed school more. The solution at my school was to move me to another class, rather than deal with the bullying There is life after bullying, but the feelings have never gone away even if the memories have.

  • I Will Survive

    2 years ago

    I Will Survive

    PS: to my previous post; that an estimated 70% of people have at some point in their lives been bullied is an shocking statistic, and wholly unacceptable. SOMETHING MUST BE DONE, TO TACKLE THIS PROBLEM AT ALL LEVELS.

  • Jane Prendergast

    2 years ago

    Jane Prendergast

    Thank you Jodie. It was an emotional programme and I feel so sorry that the Headmaster at your school has not got the empathy and kindness to say sorry to you. It should not be tolerated that he has suggested you made it up (believed you were being bulled?). He should be thoroughly ashamed of himself. Unfortunately certain schools can never look at themselves and admit and take responsibility for their failings. A simple sorry would have meant the world to you. It is so worrying that some Headteachers and some teachers still bully, not only children but their parents, in the 21st century!

  • I Will Survive

    2 years ago

    I Will Survive

    This was difficult viewing for me, as I have been bullied not just throughout my school days, but well into adult life. But it was gratifying for me to see Jodie, who had been bullied so badly, triumphing over those who had tormented her, by becoming successful. This must have been very difficult for her, to confront in public what had happened to her, and bring the problem to public attention like this. So, what are those bullies doing now, while Jodie is so successful and famous? What have they made of their lives? Do they regret what they have done, even if only because their former victim has become so successful, and they wish that they could have called themselves her friends? But there are a few things the programme could have done that it didn't; it could have confronted at least one bully and asked them why they did it. And it could have pointed out that bullying is not confined just to children, in school. Bullies in the school playground grow up to be bullies in college, bullies in the work place - indeed, bullies who become teachers, who go on to bully children and other teachers alike - bullies in the family unit, bullies in the neighbourhood, bullies of complete strangers who dare to complain about their unreasonable behaviour. We face bullies in business, who refuse to admit that they have foisted bad service onto their customers, and try to blame their customers for their bad service. Bullies in social circles; men who force unwanted sexual advances on women, men who torment other men whom they regard as weaker, gangs of bitchy women who pick on one who doesn't wear the right clothes, or still has her virginity. In every neighbourhood, there is always at least one bully or family of bullies who terrorize the people next door, or over the street. Bullying is endemic...but this programme shows that if it can be dealt with and stopped when the bullies are still children, there is hope for the future. While they are still children, bullies can be taught that there is a better way. We need every school to have initiatives like this, every community to refuse to tolerate bullying in its midst, for there to be a future without bullying. There is far too little effort made, to stop bullying from spreading out of schools, and ruining lives.

  • chelsea

    2 years ago

    chelsea

    this had me crying, im a 15 year old girl. and i had a group of friends, and at a sleepover a few girls pinned me down throw powder in my face, spat at me, spat food at me, pinned me down and wrote im fake on my face, and as i suffer with migraine attacks badly they spray pain relief in my face, i felt like i was beng suffocated, i then turned up to school and has them shouting in my face, these were ment to be my so called friends. later that night they spread rumors about me and the school handled it terrible, and later that night i tried to take my own life, overdose on tablets, i was in hospital for days, and its i have a councillor now that i talk to, this happened last october, i had never felt so alone, it teared me and my family apart. im slowly but surely getting over it. it ruined my confidence, as i was bullied when i was 11 to, i thought it was me, i was ugly and nasty, but im getting better day by day. im stronger, im just happy im still alive.

  • sharron

    2 years ago

    sharron

    maybe the headmaster of the school jodie went to should take a leaf out of the school my daughter goes to no bullying policy and see how they handle bullies.......... and yes i also think he should be sacked. Youve probably gathered bullying infuriates me BIG TIME theres no need for it. I would also like to help knock it on the head

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  • zoey

    2 years ago

    zoey

    Thank you so much for putting this show on the telly. I cryed at every single part it brought back so many memories to me as i was bullied for 7 months in hight school, I had to drop out in year 10 i hope this opens the bullys eye's to see how it affects us (people who have gone through it) and that zoe girl i can relate to her so much i went through the same and me and her came out the same but still to this day it scars me. i would love to get involved and help others who are getting bullied.

  • a friend (again)

    2 years ago

    a friend (again)

    i got psycosis too. i had a breakdown at age 19. in a mental hospital for 3 weeks. all because i bottled all the bullying up. then had another breakdown a year later. it was horrible. now all the bullying in my life in secondary is all in my head. i think about it all the time. and effects every decision i make now and how i relate to the world around me and the people in my life. it has caused mental illness for me and i cant get on with my life. and the anger it has left me with is hard to manage. but when i see the people around town from my old school theyve grown up now and i hear they feel bad about what happened and it feels so unfair that theyve grown a concience and have grown out of that attitude but its left me absolutley destroyed.

  • Chandler

    2 years ago

    Chandler

    Maybe Jodie should head up a big school bullying review/campaign and get a good PR company to help her take this all the way. The more it's in the media more can be done about this. Make it cool for all kids to stamp out bullying. I know it sound cheesy but I've worked in media for 15 years and the things that can happen through campaigns are amazing. I would help as a volunteer if a campaign was created. I am successful business woman with a secret past of being bullied too!

  • Mimi

    2 years ago

    Mimi

    How terribly sad, watching that program bought back some painful memories, i was also physically and mentally bullied from a very young age, this pattern continued through out my whole life and in to my relationships , i developed bulimia for over 8 years and i also tried to commit suicide a few times but had two amazing boys that needed me. i hated who i was and the reflection staring me back in the mirror. But all that has changes now i now teach and help other like all of you on this site. My message to you is that it is not about the bullys but about you finding your internal strength and knowing with out a shadow of a doubt no matter what anyone says or does to you that you have inner strength and self love that can conquer any situation that you may face. Its not about them, its about how you feel about them and how there words affect you. you have the power to choose your thoughts and you have the power to believe in yourself, tell yourself every single day that you deserve the very best in life and look yourself in the mirror into your eyes when you say it. The work is not in the problem but inside your head! any one that needs my support, help or just a friend please call me. Their are many more good people in the world and only a few bullies that are weak and insecure and feel powerless in thier lives so they have to try and make them selves feel big and powerful. Your point of power is always Now!! keep looking forward and focused on where you are going and not where you have come from x

  • miss amazed at jodie marsh

    2 years ago

    miss amazed at jodie marsh

    incredibly amazing miss marsh, thank you so much for showing there is life after bullying, get others involved, and look at the root of bullying, they're quite often being bullied themselves, by someone close to home, there is so much more to bullying, education, understanding, and love, they have to be the key, follow this up please, we need you

  • miss amazed at jodie marsh

    2 years ago

    miss amazed at jodie marsh

    incredibly amazing miss marsh, thank you so much for showing there is life after bullying, get others involved, and look at the root of bullying, they're quite often being bullied themselves, by someone close to home, there is so much more to bullying, education, understanding, and love, they have to be the key, follow this up please, we need you

  • Mimi

    2 years ago

    Mimi

    How terribly sad, watching that program bought back some painful memories, i was also physically and mentally bullied from a very young age, this pattern continued through out my whole life, i developed bulimia for over 8 years . i tried to commit suicide a few times but had two amazing boys that needed me and made me stop myself. i hated who i was and the reflection staring me back in the mirror. But all that has changes now i now teach and help other like all of you on this site. My message to you is that it is not about the bullys but about you finding your internal strength and knowing with out a shadow of a doubt no matter what anyone says or does to you that you have inner strength and self love that can conquer any situation that you may face. Its not about them, its about how you feel about them and how there words affect you. you have the power to choose your thoughts and you have the power to believe in yourself, tell yourself every single day that you deserve the very best in life and look yourself in the mirror into your eyes when you say it. The work is not in the problem but inside your head! any one that needs my support, help or just a friend please call me. Their are many more good people in the world and only a few bullies that are weak and insecure and feel powerless in thier lives so they have to try and make them selves feel big and powerful. Your point of power is always Now!! keep looking forward and focused on where you are going and not where you have come from x

  • miss amazed at jodie marsh

    2 years ago

    miss amazed at jodie marsh

    incredibly amazing miss marsh, thank you so much for showing there is life after bullying, get others involved, and look at the root of bullying, they're quite often being bullied themselves, by someone close to home, there is so much more to bullying, education, understanding, and love, they have to be the key, follow this up please, we need you

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  • Peejay

    2 years ago

    Peejay

    Dee...your comment is 100% correct...kids with hot hair and too much make up get more punishment than the ones who have serious issues...the bullies!! Everything you in your comment is so true and i hope that teachers, head teachers and everyone that can make a difference are reading every single one of these comments. My thoughts are with your daughter, she has abviously gone through so much x

  • welshy

    2 years ago

    welshy

    I was badly bullied at school, nearly 10 years ago, and watching this made me feel i was back there again. It totally does damage u but u come out the better person, the others r scums. i to wish i can defend the poor victims. So cruel. I had gangs waiting for me, putting sauce in my hair when eating lunch, to boys kicking me, awfull.

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  • Lauren

    2 years ago

    Lauren

    I can relate to Jodie, im quiet girl at school who just wants to get on with my work, a boy at my school grabbed my bum and tried to touch me, I told him to get of me and leave me a lone, he laughed and called me names, I told the teachers but it's a waste of time, they don't care, these boys have been bullying me since I started school, I'm now 15 and the bullying is worse, I'm so unhappy and just hate going to school, I have phycosis do to the bullying, tell my mum I don't feel well just to get of going to school. Why can't they just leave me alone, I know how Jodie feels

  • Respect

    2 years ago

    Respect

    Woaw im so angry! what a fantastic programme, showing true light on such a massive issue that is ignored, people dont believe in themselves and even when people do not commit suicide they cant live properly, the programe was amazing and i have a new respect for Jodie Marsh, thank you for making the programme, its a shame that all teachers seem to say the same ... people "believe" they are being bullied... Denial doesnt make it go away i will everyone the best Bless you all xxx

  • Dee

    2 years ago

    Dee

    This programme comes exactly one year after my daughter became seriously mentally ill and took steps towards ending her life following years of bullying from both boys and girls. The signs were there but none of us realised quite how much it was affecting her and how often it was happening. The school, supposedly one of the top ranking in the country, did the same as most others - having "words" with the bullies which mostly just served to make things worse and she just gave up reporting everything that was happening. She was ill for around 7 months and never returned to school as it was her last year and missed out on final GCSE's she had worked so hard for along with missing out on 7 months of her life outside of school as she barely could face leaving the house. Most school "anti bullying policies" like most policies governments and similar bodies make are a waste of space. The bullies got to sit their GCSE's, go to prom, carry on with their hobbies, laugh, shop, go out with friends. "Having a word" does NOT work. Children get sent home for much less in some schools, like turning up with earrings, wrong uniform, so parents are aware of misdemeanours - this is the LEAST should happen to ANY child found to be bullying and these so called "anti bullying policies" should be anti bullying actions not hot hair. The bullying has affected my daughter, family and friends in more ways than I have time or space on here to list and as a result of the mental illness it caused, her future mental stability will always be an unknown thanks to these lowlifes. If this programme triggers a campaign so that kids in future who are being brought up well, work hard at school, may be a little different perhaps or don't wear the "right clothes" or put their books in the "right carrier bags" (yep, its got to that level!), then I and millions of other suffering parents will be very grateful to Jodie - Jamie did it with school dinners, I would say this is equally if not more important.

  • peejay

    2 years ago

    peejay

    Hannah...I was the same as you...used to feel that i had to walk with my head down and only look up with my eyes!Never felt i was worthy enough to look at people straight on...stop it right now...look people in the eye whether you know them or not!! You are worthy and how dare anyone make you feel this way. I really feel for you but please dont let anyone take 'you' away...how dare bullies do this to people! They are the 'cowards and unconfident ones' thats why they bully

  • anonymous.

    2 years ago

    anonymous.

    so pleased this has been on to raise awareness! im not saying it will stop because in reality it wont but thank god its made people stop and think about their actions. i was bulled in middle school and in high school again, after being hospitalised 7 times i left school and am now a much happier person, it never goes away, you never forget it but you learn to move on. i wouldnt wish it on anyone.

  • c

    2 years ago

    c

    think your lovely jodie and even in the picture wen u were young with the big glassesu still looked so pretty! all the girls were lovely and again very pretty too, they will realise its all jealousy one day x

  • C Walledge

    2 years ago

    C Walledge

    I too was bullied at school.But I'm convinced that most physical bullies are regularly walloped at home by parents. Let's make parents share the punishment. And start taking kids to court for assault or cyber-bullying.

  • Sophie S

    2 years ago

    Sophie S

    This programme really brought back bad memories for me about my time at school that I have tried to lock away. I was bullied through-out my whole school life due to my weight or my nose, and even now that I've left, comments are made to me frequently still, even by my own family. I didn't really have the right support system at home and so things got progressively worse and many thoughts are that similar of Zoe. I do recieve help now for an on-going personnel coping method but I have been recieving it for several years and I still suffer from it. Bullying is a traumatic thing to go though at any age but when your in secondary school it is probably the worst, I would try and skip school as much as I could. This programme has opened my eyes to just how many people go through bullying, it has to stop as bullys, you dont realise the long-term effect you have on your victims. Jodie and everyone who took part, I admire you, especially Jodie to have gone through it and come out a strong confident woman. I hope one day I can out things behind me

  • Jan

    2 years ago

    Jan

    Omg that programme so good my son having dreadful time at present teachers are totally useless denying everything and trying to test saying he can't make friends these teachers are pure disgrace my child in danger they deny it but they very quick to pick up there wages oh yes I am a professional and I know I always protect my kids yet they go to school and are literally in danger it's disgusting

  • sharron

    2 years ago

    sharron

    jodie your programme was brilliant and hopefully will help with having all bullying stopped, even in the work place. Its maybe me but as Ive said in my other posts we need to stamp it out and as parents stand up and be heard especially at the schools, bullying is wrong and not acceptable. keep up the good work you have my support and hopefully we may see a follow up. Thanks, Im sorry if Ive been going on a bit but it really angers me.

  • a friend (again)

    2 years ago

    a friend (again)

    i wish i could be friends with all the people featured on tonights show, and with you all leaving comments on here. i wish i had you all as my friends. my life would be amazing. your all wonderfull people. and yes i was bullied. but theres nothing i could say that you all have not said already. i can relate to everyone here and you have all made me feel like i have my own story and that im involved too. thank you thank you xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  • sally sunshine

    2 years ago

    sally sunshine

    have found a new found respect for jodie marsh.my daughter is tormented at school. this programme helped her feel less isolated. inspirational. thank you!! i'm really interested in becomming an anti bullying counselor but have no idea where to start? help!

  • tara

    2 years ago

    tara

    tony you are nothing but a bully calling her fake and plastic, not liking someone who u have never even met gives you no right to say hurtfull things, she is using her fame to help bring awareness based on her own expeiriences and lots of people can relate to her... how dare you critisise that with such a pathetic comment.

  • Robert

    2 years ago

    Robert

    The Bullying Documentary made me upset. I'm a 45 yr old man and i'm still mentally scarred by my very bad experience when i was severely bullied Verbally & Physically at my Secondary School for 4 years by most of my class. I was in Secondary School in 1978-1983, and it all started from 1979, i just wished back then there were no Anti-Bully Campaigns etc, it was unheard of as many times i thought about killing myself because of what i went through. Because of what happened to me back then, it has made me who i am now but still that's no Consillation for what i experienced. I felt exactly the same as Jodie, i hated School and i couldn't learn at all in school. I'm not going to give any details of what i went through. I would like to thank Channel 5 for putting that show on air and let's hope by that show, it'll help stop the bullying in schools.

  • Chandler

    2 years ago

    Chandler

    Did anyone read the head teachers statement at the end, the head at Jodie's old school? How condescending to have written the he was sorry that Jodie BELIEVES she was bullied! So is he saying that it's only Jodie who believes it and it's not true! Why didn't he say it's very sad Jodie was bullied! The biggest reason some young people don't come forward about bullying is the fear of not being believed. Not a great statement from the head teacher nor that the school wouldn't get involved in the programme. If the school has changed so much why couldn't the school show it's new anti bullying polices?? I was bullied for years but my school was fantastic and they now openly talk about how they have turned things around to support young people who are being bullied. It's so sad that not all schools do this!

  • Sophie

    2 years ago

    Sophie

    I was also bullied through my entire school life for my weight or my nose, and even though I've now left school I still get comments made to me even by members of my own family, I've been at very very low points and due to this have turnt to my own private ways of coping. This show was emotional for me to watch as I can relate strongly to it but through school never had the courage to tell anyone how it really effected me, I just bottled it up and slapped on a smile. Jodie Marsh was amazing and I cannot believe that someone who comes across so confident was made to feel so crappy, Bullies should be stopped, they really have no idea the long term effects of their actions. Stop the Bullies.

  • Rob Hunt

    2 years ago

    Rob Hunt

    Have just watched the tv show and wow.... so many emotions came back to me, Am now a 30 year old man and theses feelings of being back at school and the bullying because i was gay are really over whelming, my bullying went on for over 5 years and can honestly say i will never forget them.... what it has done is make me a stronger person on the outside but the emotions on the inner will never leave me... Like Jody i have since challenged my school over the lack of support and they have failed to reply in any way...

  • sharron

    2 years ago

    sharron

    helen I agree with what yor saying about parents needing to more about there kids problems, being a parent myself ive just posted on here about the abuse my daughter has just gone through. Parents can be powerful and im lucky i have a good rapport with my daughter, I know it can be difficult but we need to encourage kids to talk.

  • Richard Sears

    2 years ago

    Richard Sears

    This is a great example of the effect of bullying and also the personal courage of people affected by it. I was bullied at school and now I'm older (32 not that old) and wiser, and I am over the way I was treated. I have learnt from it and really want to encourage people to be strong. Thank you very much for this program it is a great example of something so awful and yet so avoidable. Also well done to Jodie, it obviously wasn't easy at times but you did great! God Bless

  • miranda

    2 years ago

    miranda

    I was also bullied for many years at school. I believe that schools need to address bullying in drama classes by promoting empathy and allowing young people to explore the different bullying positions (bully, victim, bystander) in order to experience how it feels and think about ways to manage it. Bullying has affected me in negative ways, but i think it has also meant that i'm more sensitive and thoughtful than i might have been. I also loved the balloons!

  • Linda

    2 years ago

    Linda

    I was bullied verbally at secondary school from my first year till I left, it was relentless and it does scar you, I'm 33 now and it's still there, I've moved on in some ways but like Jodie it changed my path and I don't think I achieved what I could have done, however I want others who are being bullied at school who may be reading this to know that one day you will never see these people again and your life WILL change, even though it may not seem like it now, you are loved and deserve happiness, no-one is born to be a punch bag.

  • Hannah

    2 years ago

    Hannah

    Just watched the programme. Well done jodie, I have been getting bullied scence year 7 I'm in year 10 now and I had to move school and I had to move house, this programme should hopfuly show the bullys how they make every feel, its not nice to get bullied! My first school was icknield high school in luton, my problems was never sorted there; I don't think my problems will ever get sorted, my self asteem has gone down and my personality has lowerd I don't feel apart of anything I feel I have to put my head down and not look up because people will say somthing, I feel that I can't go to my local town with out my family there even with them I don't feel safe. I should always be feeling safe and I never really do! Well.. Well done jodie X

  • Pamela Crosbie

    2 years ago

    Pamela Crosbie

    Bully You’re the worst disease in every school, You hurt humiliate- make people look a fool, You’re empty and hollow- so you put on an act, You feel big and respected and that’s the sad fact The reason you do this no one knows fully, Can’t hide behind the truth you’re a bully!!!! Pamela crosbie 06/-6/2005

  • PeeJay

    2 years ago

    PeeJay

    I can really sympatise with what Jodie went through at school. I was bullied by a 'so called friend' saying that i was fat and ugly...always makiing sure she looked good and when i looked what i thought looked good, bringing me down! But saying that would always seem to copy what i was wearing...getting inside my head and controlling me is what the bullying was, making me believe i was the ugly one...what kind of friend would do that? But now that i am at the age of 42, i still need reassurance that i am not fat and ugly still haunts me. It does effect every day life, even at work sometimes i feel so bad i want to come home! Any kind of bullying is whether physical or emotional is damn right cruel and can be everlasting and i think sometimes the bully is the one who is not confident as the girl who used to bully me emotionally, is on a well known website and has constant photos of herself asking for comments...maybe i wasnt the as ugly as i was lead to believe? Sorry i am using this as a way to analize my situation and that isnt right...sometimes this is what happens when we are bullied!? Col...your right sometimes it does feel like yesterday...mine was approx 24 years ago and i still feel like this!! Jodie, you have proven that bullies dont have to bring you down, well done for what you are now xx

  • sharron guild

    2 years ago

    sharron guild

    my 13yr old daughter had her so called friends turn on her, abusive telephone calls, threats to her and myself, my car was vandalised and I had 10 of them up at my door treatening her and shouting abuse up to my house from the other side of the street, it got that bad my neighbour came out to back me up as i asked them to leave and she got abuse thrown at her too but she fired it back. I told them all to leave and called the police after I had approached the parents to give them a chance to sort it out but just like society today they were'nt interested. This had affected my daughter quite alot but I have supported her and backed her with everything. Im lucky my daughter tells me (nearly) everything and i have always told her to stick up for herself. I asked her if she wanted to watch the programme which we watched together and the one proud comment she came out with was "well I hope every bully in the country is watching this" she did get emotional but as I told her it was ok to feel like that. I think all the schools should have an annual get together during school time to do the balloon thing I think that would highlight the problem in the schools and help encourage kids to talk to someone and tell there parents guardians everything that is going on. The school my daughter goes to have been great even when 3 girls arrived at my daughters school and assaulted her, and getting a phone call from your child in tears because she's been assaulted was destroying. The shool acted quickly and the police were involved and yes the girls were charged. Thankfully nothing else has happened . All I would say is keep up the anti bullying and no matter what report all incidents its got to stop and Ill say it again keep the kids talking even if there getting threats onthe net, it can be traced and stopped. Hope this helps

  • patricia martin

    2 years ago

    patricia martin

    my heart is achin my son was shy so met these 2 boys was called gay boy spat ut school did nothing about it tried 2 kill him self!!!!!! where can i turn 2 to bont kno wat else 2 say no 1 2 turn 2 please can u help me

  • kay-lee'x

    2 years ago

    kay-lee'x

    rip thomas:/<3 watched what happend brought tears rto my eyes and made me cry seeing were you killed your self:/

  • clare

    2 years ago

    clare

    I got bullied at secondary school also about my nose the name calling has never left me evan now 5 years after leaving school im waiting for cosmetic surgury. abusive phone calls with held numbers absolulty tortured me. There was a time in school where i was so alone i use to cry myself to sleep wishing i wouldnt wake up in the morning i also was extreamly thin in school i was so frightend of puttin weight on incase my nose looked bigger. Jodies autobiography really helped me as i found out what she went through i was so looking forward to tonights show u did us proud jodie :-) i also think secondary pupils should be made aware of the horrific outcomes ( i.e sucide )from bullying as they are old enough and should be frightend of their victim doing something bad that would reflect their actions.

  • ellie

    2 years ago

    ellie

    I just watched the show and I think jodie is amazin and has guts talkin bout her past! I got builled once an it left me with a fractured arm ill never forget it that was in primary school but it gave me more confidence to stick up for my self later on in life but yea it does make u feel low in life and now my poor little couson is bein builled and it has now got to the point were she now isn't goin to school they have poured lemonade over threaten to beat her up the school hasn't done anythink wot so ever not even called to see why she isn't in school just goes to show wot the schools are like I'd love to get more involed beacuse I have been there years ago and u still look back and it deffo does leave scars and some people will never get over it an I hope later on in life it doesn't affect my couson an I hope she does get stronger as she gets older thank u jodie for ur show deff brought a tear watchin it

  • Steph Matthews

    2 years ago

    Steph Matthews

    Great programme, well done to highlight this! However nothing was mentioned on how important it is for the person being bullied to Report it (preferably to a teacher). Yes the 1st step to do this is difficult but once over the 1st hurdle it gets easier to report each incident. can't act on it if they do not know about it, they need to The teachers know and a log of it needs to be made with the school. My daughter has had terrible bullying, she eventually started to report each incident with my help and now the school has acted promptly. The bullies have been put on the spot and now are pushed in a corner, as after each incident it is brought to everyone's attention so they now think twice before bullying. It is working. PLEASE report incidents, get support from a friend or relative if needed.

  • Unknown.

    2 years ago

    Unknown.

    I was bullied in primary, mostly for being adopted it carried on into high school where it started to get more physical, I never wanted to go in and I begged my mum to not let me go in, but I had to so every chance I got I slipped out and went home, I had to hide from my mum when she came home so she didn't realise I was there because she would have took me back, in the end it got so bad I started to self harm... It wasn't untill my head of year found out about the self harming that she realised something was going on, even then it carried on happening and nothing was stopping the bullies, I just felt so alone and I didn't know who to talk to. I wasn't confident enough to speak out and I was just terrifed of going in, I was so glad when I left both Primary and High school because I knew it would end and college would be better and I was right, I've made lots of friends and I love going, I got a chance to do my GCSE's again and I am more happy now than I was back then. Even now looking back, I still feel like self harming because of the torment of last year. I still never talk about it to anyone and my parents still didn't know, no one in my family does. There are some of the bullies in my college but they don't talk to me when they see me but I still get a little scared when I see them, the first few weeks at college was hard though, I was threatened once but luckly unlike last year one of the teachers called the police in and they are now not aloud on campus or talk to any of the students, one of the girls are back in but I get along with her now, I tore my high school and primary pictures up and burnt anything to do with them, I don't think I could look at the uniform or the books and stuff without breaking down into tears. I feel like an idiot or letting it get to me so much but I can't help it, it was horrid. But I'm glad I've made friends with all my class in college, since we're a small class anyways.

  • Darc

    2 years ago

    Darc

    I have been crying my eyes out watching this I can really relate to this I'm only15 but was badly bullied in year 7 when was 12 going on 13 I put on 2 stone I tired to kill myself i moved schools but I just left my other school because I don't feel right there and I've started college to I've done a lot of things I wish I hadn't and still do some of them now I regret letting the bullies get to me like they did and this program has brought it all back I really feel for the people on this program they are all so brave for being able to go on television and talk about it x

  • Rush

    2 years ago

    Rush

    I noticed that the headmaster of Jodie's old school was quoted as saying he was sorry that Jodie BELIEVED she'd been bullied!!! What the hell is that supposed to mean? She believed it and he didn't? No wonder it went on during his watch because he still doesn't even believe it happened. And you people who have kids being bullied. Have you been around and talked to the parents of the bullies?

  • steffiiee

    2 years ago

    steffiiee

    i was bullied really bad every day was a night mare for me it was the worst time of my life and i was suicidle and always wanted to die as i cudnt take it every day i gt bullied in the end i used to skip school smoke drugs and hide away until it was hometime id go home n my mum wdnt know a thing that went on i am now agoraphobic and suffer from severe depression and panic attacks it got to the point where if any1 tried to say amything abput me i wod just switch out i even put a knife to my little brothers throat i felt terrible buh i didnt even know i did it i just flipped put it was so scary

  • Fred

    2 years ago

    Fred

    Am a 35 years old professional man and I just cried like a baby watching that show. I have never confessed to my relatives and friends what happened between the age of 10 and 15 years old. Those 6 years have made who I am now, someone who is always looking for approval, with a low self esteem despite a successful career and a great physique. Beautiful and strong image from the outside but so tormented and sad inside. I shouldn t have judge u JM, u did a good job and I can see part of myself in your attitude. Fred

  • Helen

    2 years ago

    Helen

    I thought Jodie did a really good job tonight. My daughter was bullied alot in her previous senior school till i moved her away. She is much happier now even though mental scars are still there. Parents should learn more about their kids probs i think........

  • lauren

    2 years ago

    lauren

    I'm 17 and left school last may, I was bullied my entire life because of my 'wiches' nose.. due to this I asked my mum for a nose job at the age of 12 and still have very low self confidence. I find it hard to befriend and trust new people due to my experiences at school, I know that I will never get over my traumatic time and it is something that will stick with me for the rest of my life! I still to this day want a nose job, but more than anything want to become a model to prove all of my bullies wrong! but for now I am happy and thankful for my family and close friends for helping me through that tough time x

  • Fee

    2 years ago

    Fee

    I'm 33 and was bullied at school, nothing as i recall very bad (although i supposed it depends on what you think is bad) It did affect me, i lacked confidence and faked sickness to avoid going. But by the 4th and 5th year of school I began to enjoy it, had some good friends and stayed on until 6th form. I went to college and uni, travelled and then progressed on my career I now manage a sucessful business. I sometime see my bullies, they're not up to much and one of them died of a drugs overdose. So my message is stay strong and hang on, get help and as you get older it gets better, don't let them get to you, your beautiful and loved. The people featured are so brave to come forward and hopefully make people think about what they're doing. I think the girl on the photo shoot looked amazing, she's so pretty and should not have been worried about her bullies seeing her and worrying what they think - they'll probably be jealous - and who gives a $@#T what they think. Well done Jodie too!

  • stuart

    2 years ago

    stuart

    zoe. will you marry me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Helen

    2 years ago

    Helen

    Did you see the last comment from the current head of her old school 'I regret that Jodie believes she was bullied...' So it all in our heads then is it?? Talk about denial. If any school says they have no bullying avoid it. It happens everywhere, the good schools are the ones who admit it and try to tackle it.

  • amanda

    2 years ago

    amanda

    your show has brought tears to my eyes, I too was bullied severely both mentally and physically at school and still cannot get it out of my head (31 years later) how people can be so disgusting to others. Keep up the good work and keep up the fight x

  • sophie

    2 years ago

    sophie

    hate bully, been bullied all my life now that girl bullying me is beening been and she just made a status on face book about this programme because she getting bullied if she didnt bully other people she wouldnt of been bullied watch this has made me really upset because i hurt myself and want to kill myself but if it wasnt for my family who know where i would be and i am really greatfully that you made this because that bully if watching it and i hope she understand what she did to other people

  • alice

    2 years ago

    alice

    The comment at the end of the programme left by the headmaster at Jodie's old school said it all. As far as he and the school were concerned the bullying didn happen. Typical. Thats schools denying bullying happens at "their" school. If all schools have attitudes like that then how do they expect to rid of bullying

  • tan

    2 years ago

    tan

    thank u jodie for highlighting the bulling i am 35 was bullied at skool and this programme has really upset me but in a good way i dnt think u ever get over it even after all these years skools dnt take it seriously enuff n they need to x

  • amanda

    2 years ago

    amanda

    your show has brought tears to my eyes, I too was bullied severely both mentally and physically at school and still cannot get it out of my head (31 years later) how people can be so disgusting to others. Keep up the good work and keep up the fight x

  • Lola

    2 years ago

    Lola

    What was the little boy and girls name at the start

  • vicky

    2 years ago

    vicky

    I really like this how i was bullied myself for 3 years and wanted to kill myself all time, i ended up leaving that school to a different school, 4 years later and im actually beginning to like myself, only keeping the people who support me in my life and getting rid of the ones who always put me down. Cant wait for the next episode. xx

  • Grace

    2 years ago

    Grace

    a perfect example of how schools, and universities in my case, fail people who are being bullied, the end of that program it stated the current headmaster felt sorry that jodie 'believed' she was bullied at the school. thats a blatant denial! what chance does anyone have when teachers won't believe it exists. she was bullied, I was bullied, many people are bullied, there are no ifs or buts or people thinking something is happening. that phrase made me so angry. that teacher should be ashamed of himself; I'm sure should any of his children be bullied it wouldn't be a case of them 'believing' they were.

  • sophie

    2 years ago

    sophie

    hate bully, been bullied all my life now that girl bullying me is beening been and she just made a status on face book about this programme because she getting bullied if she didnt bully other people she wouldnt of been bullied watch this has made me really upset because i hurt myself and want to kill myself but if it wasnt for my family who know where i would be and i am really greatfully that you made this because that bully if watching it and i hope she understand what she did to other people

  • callum

    2 years ago

    callum

    im at home thinking how i can help stop bullying i wanna stop it :@ someone help me please

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  • JenHan

    2 years ago

    JenHan

    Zoe is gorgeous and inside and out. I was not bullied nor have i ever seen any one else be bullied but i know i would stop it if i saw any form! Jodie is a great role model and we can all learn someting great. "We all really do need to be nicer to each other."

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  • craig

    2 years ago

    craig

    i am a sgt in the army from primary 6 all the way throw to 5th year high school i was verbally and physically bullied it is only now at 33years old i have seeked help for what happened to me. it has now brought up so many bad memory s that i have repressed but its a big release, if i was to say anything to anyone getting bullied pls tell someone u will get the help u need and feel such a release in ur life x

  • col

    2 years ago

    col

    Fair play to jodie marsh for doing this. She is lovely. Hopefully many people who see this show tonight will think twice about bullying again. I was bullied by a teacher for two years. I was slapped and mentally tortured for being a quiet child. 25 years ago and sometimes feels like yesterday.

  • Sue

    2 years ago

    Sue

    I'm watching the programme now, and I just want to say to Zoe, there is a light that shines from your eyes and a gentleness in your face; you are indeed beautiful. Be proud of how far you have come. You may never know the other young people who's lives may be saved tonight because of your bravery. You go girl! Live your life to the full. You're worth it, you're so worth it. best wishes to you and your family for the future

  • alex

    2 years ago

    alex

    Brilliant show. I left school 20 yrs ago. Heavily bullied most of the time. I tried suicide, woke up the next morning, just in time to get ready for school. That was the lowest point. I thought I was over it until I drove down the high street near the school. Had to pull over to be sick. I thought I was being daft still being upset about it. But now I know that I'm not. Never thought I'd say this...thank you Jodie Marsh x

  • Concerned Parent

    2 years ago

    Concerned Parent

    My daughter is being verbally & physically bullied in school. She as had to have time off school because she as been so scared to go in. I have spoke to the teachers and they have had a word with the girls involved as one followed her home and verbally & physically had a go at her. My daughter as been told to stay away from these girls but it is boys as well having a go at her calling her names. I just wish the school would sort it out because my daughter says she likes the school but she doesn't like all the bullying that is happening.

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  • Debbie

    2 years ago

    Debbie

    So glad Jodie for you making this programme. Thankyou ! This is really important and this should have been done years ago! its making me cry my eyes out! For any one who is a bully watching it TAKE NOTE! Yes You should be ashamed! Myself and my daughter was bullied! My daughter is so beautiful and this is the reason why she has to try hard to fit in! I Hope this shows the bullies how much you can ruin peoples lives! That poor couple whose son killed himself Jodie was speaking to, It breaks my heart I am 40 and my daughter is 12! Jodie WELL DONE! You are a lovely person!

  • alice

    2 years ago

    alice

    I can relate to what jodie and these other victims of bullying have gone through especially Zoe. I was bullied from my first day at primary school. I was bullied not only by pupils but by two teachers. It was all verbal and teacher telling me on a daily basis. "Your stupid your never be anything or make anything of your life" I would be segregated from the other pupils in my class and every week always sent to the head masters. I began to believe the comments that I was stupid. I would go home and stand in front of my mirror screaming at myself and looking at my reflection and tell myself I was thick, rubbish and stupid and ugly. On a daily basis i would hit myself and bang my head off radiators and walls. I complemented suicide hundreds of times. My behaviour towards my parents deteriorated where I would scream at them and tell my mum i hated her and which i was dead and hadn been born. I ran away from home 3 times. I felt i could tell my parents about the bullying because it was teachers who were doing it and encouraging it. I felt let down that they didnt pick up on my behaviour. I began to steal things and all this happened from age 4-11. The bullying affected my self esteem and confidence so much especially towards my attitude to academic work and jobs. I know I could been really successful but the pyschological effects are still with me 24 years on. I wish i had been a stronger person and spoken out about what was going on instead of always bottling up my feelings maybe things would have worked out differently and how my life would have been and what I could have been

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  • a friend

    2 years ago

    a friend

    everybody featured on this programme have no idea how much they are loved. theyre perfect! love them all soooo much. i wish i knew them. i wish they were my friends. i would be so happy.

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  • Matt

    2 years ago

    Matt

    I can't remember the detais now as it was so long ago but I remember that I was bullied thru school. I'm watching the program right now and, oh god, I so want to defend the poor kids. Please let them know that it does get better & when they eventually see the bullies again, they'll know what they did & will be ashamed (& scared in my case, I'm 6 foot 1 in & 17 stone!).

  • Dave

    2 years ago

    Dave

    Being physically small for my age I became an easy target for stronger and taller boys. Bullying throughout secondary school destroyed my self confidence and it took me years to pull myself back. Its good to see this being recognised as a serious problem and hope it helps others.

  • KarenForbes

    2 years ago

    KarenForbes

    I was bullied when I first moved up north from london, by older kids and a boy in my school. You never really get over it.

  • emilia

    2 years ago

    emilia

    haha my old school is on this so going to watch it

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  • Mee!

    over 2 years ago

    Mee!

    Looking forward to seeing this. I'm still at school, and my bff is getting bullied so I hope this will help. And as the comment above said, Childline is a really good website for dealing with bullying, and loads of other stuff aswell.

  • Richard

    over 2 years ago

    Richard

    Please add Childline www.childline.org.uk 0800 1111 to your 'Related links'. Its a really child-friendly helpline that will be able to give advice to young people suffering from bullying.

  • vikki

    over 2 years ago

    vikki

    cany wait watch this, it some was fimed at my daughters school

  • Emma

    over 2 years ago

    Emma

    She's always had a heart of gold.

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  • unknown

    over 2 years ago

    unknown

    Cant wait to watch the show, i was bullied myself so it will be helpfull to no how other people in my situation feel!

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