Why do younger guys fancy cougars?

This week Sami, Moses, Hamza and Mohamed came in to ask Sex Pod the question: “Why are younger guys into older women?”

When asked, the guys all said they thought older women (or ‘cougars’) are super sexy, though while some said that the oldest woman they would go for would be in her mid-thirties, others said they’d sleep with a woman who was even in her 50s and 60s.

The guys reckoned that cougars sometimes liked bedding younger men too, because younger men’s penises were still young and full of life, and they were likely to have more stamina in the bedroom.

Hmmm… But what did Sex Pod have to say about all this? Why are younger guys often attracted to older women?

Sexual experience

The one thing that older women definitely have is more experience. They are likely to know more about their sexual preferences, having trialled and error-ed with more partners, and would probably equally know more about how to get a guy going.


Older women are gorgeous

Older women can be extremely attractive as they are more stable emotionally and more financially independent. They know more about what they want in life and are less insecure than younger girls can often be, because confidence often comes with age and knowing what you want from life.

They often just give off sexy vibes.

Social status

Counselling Psychologist Dr Benjamin Piper said it can also be the older woman’s social status that can attract younger guys. Basically, an older woman may appear more powerful and responsible, and younger guys may feel they don’t have to look after them and be responsible for them as much as they feel with younger girls.

They may even feel like they will be more looked after themselves which may be a very exciting prospect for some men. Which brings us to the next part…

Psychological theories 

It’s time to get weird. So everybody knows Freud, right? He’s got some psychological theories that are pretty out there, but that are widely known and still up for debate nonetheless. One of them is the Oedipal Complex.

Taken from the Ancient Greek play Oedipus, where the main character is predicted to kill his father and marry his mother, the Oedipus Complex is supposed to be the secret desire young boys feel for their mums.

It’s been suggested that this desire a young boy has for his mother comes out in adulthood through a sexual fantasy of sleeping with an older woman.


To conclude

A lot of guys may feel attracted to older women, and there are quite a few reasons why they might be. But attraction is a complex thing. In fact, a 2015 US study of 35,000 volunteers showed that the biggest factor determining attraction is not genetics but actually your personal experiences –  including the friends you have made and even first loves.

Maybe Freud was onto something…

See you in a week, Sex Pod-ers!